Beilager

The term Beilager (in older writings Beylager), as well as the related terms Bettleite and Bettsetzung all refer to a ceremonial part of marriage as performed in Germany from the High Middle Ages to about the 19th century.

During Beilager, bride and groom were ritually covered in the marriage bed in a public ceremony. The process had legal force and therefore needed witnesses of the consummation of the marriage. In the oldest surviving Saxon law (Saxony Mirror in 1220) it says: Er ist ihr Vormund und sie ist seine Genossin, und tritt in sein recht, wann si in sein Bett tritt (He is her guardian and she is his companion, and enters at his right when she goes to bed). A senior witness or relative (sometimes also a lawyer) established the consent of the couple, and then performed Muntehe, transitioning the guardianship of the woman from father to husband.

These royal nuptials were designed with appropriate pomp. The (pre-) marital intercourse, copula carnalis, (medieval Latin for sinful connection, as noted in church records) was probably an original part of the Beilagers ritual in the early Middle Ages. Descriptions of the 15th century describe the bride and groom getting dressed in the symbolic marriage bed, followed by the carnal union of the pair, without witnesses, on the wedding night, although some authors believe that in the 14th century intercourse took place in view of witnesses.

A special form of ritual Beilager, called keusches Beilager (chaste nuptials), involved a deputy or messenger of the groom carrying out the ritual nuptials in which a sword was placed between the bride and the groom's representative to symbolize the physical separation between the bride and her groom. The Abgesandtenwerbung survived to our time in the form of the so-called Handschuhehe (marriage glove), which is not recognized legally in Germany.

History
Hardly any descriptions of ritual beilager as performed in the high Middle Ages have survived. It is presumed that it was so commonplace that it was not considered necessary to describe it. In the 14th and 15th century there are frequent reports of (usually royal) beilager.

The religious influence on the ritual beilager was limited, with the church blessing usually sought only after the wedding night. But there were variations: the royal nuptials Duke Johann Casimir (Saxe-Coburg) with Margaret of Brunswick-Lüneburg in 1599 in Coburg held the general superintendent Melchior Bischoff on ritual nuptials bed a short sermon titled: ''Christliche Ermahnung geschehen vor der Copulation am 16. Septembris'' (Christian exhortation happen before copulation on 16 Septembris). But the marriage blessing, he issued until the following day after the wedding night.

In Baltic Sea area is regionally until the 19th century demonstrated the public Bettleite, the rites similar to those of late medieval symbolic Beilager. For Catholic Christians, the church wedding was not until the Council of Trent (1545 - 1563, Session VII) is compulsory. Validity of the church got married very late. The Reformation brought no direct influence on the evaluation of public Bettleite and Beilager a legal action with them.