Nair ceremonies and customs

There are numerous ceremonies and customs adopted by the Nair caste, which is prominent in the South Indian state of Kerala.

Kalarippayattu
Kalarippayattu training is undertaken by every youth of the Nair community. The practice was established by Parashuraman, Durga, and Bhadrakali.

Shri Kallanthattil Gurukkal (a Nampoothiri Brahmin), Kshatriyas, King Marthanda Varma, Shri Pazhassiraja, Guru of Kallanthattil Gurukkal (a Kshatriya, Kolathiri rajah) all learned kalarippayattu.

Kalaripayattu is commonly practiced among Savarna castes of Kerala. However, later it is also start learned other communities includes Muslims, Christians, Ezhavas and Nadars, despite their pacifism.

Kathakali
Kathakali is a dance-drama which portrays scenes from Hindu epics or stories. It is a classical dance form of Kerala demanding long years of training. Believed to have evolved from Ramanattam, another classical art form composed by Kottarakkara Thampuran, Kathakali incorporates the techniques of some of the major ritual art forms of Kerala. The dance-drama was historically performed exclusively by Nairs and had always been associated with them. Nair rulers and chiefs patronized the art and Kathakali had foundations in Nair military training and religious customs.

Velakali
Velakali is a ritualistic martial arts form performed by Nair men in some temples of southern Kerala. The form depicts the fight between the Pandavas and Kauravas. It originated in Ambalappuzha, where Mathoor Panicker, chief of the Chempakasserri army, employed it to boost the martial spirit of the people. Dancers wear colorful and attractive costumes similar to that of the Nair soldiers of the olden days. The dancers carry a painted shield in their left hand and a stick (Churikakkol) in their right hand. The performance resembles actions in a battle. Percussion instruments like thavil, shudha madhalam, elathalam, kombu, and kuzhal are used.

Marumakkathayam and Tharavadu
Marumakkathayam is matrilineality. Tharavad is a subclan household, which was matrilineal for Nairs, headed by the eldest male member of the family (known as Karanavan) while other male members were known as Anandravan. It is also practiced by Bunts of Tulunad.

Sambandham and related customs
Before 1937 in Cochin, before 1928 in Travancore, and before 1933 in Malabar, Nairs had three major marriage/rite of passage ceremonies. Kettu Kalyanam (mock marriage ceremony/ auspicious ceremony), Thirandu Kalyanam (menstrual ceremony) and Gunadosha-Sambandham/Pudamuri/Pudavakoda (cloth-giving ceremony, actual union).

Kettu Kalyanam
The Kettu Kalyanam was an elaborate mock marriage ceremony. After it was completed, the groom had no obligation to the bride. This was required to be performed by the bride before her Sambandham, the genuine marriage ceremony.

Sambandham/Podamuri/Pudava Koda/Mundukoda
The Sambandham ritual was less religious than the thaali and puberty rites, and means "alliance" or "relationship". It was a form of marriage alliance between men and women following marumakkathayam. The ritual was comparatively simple. It begins with the groom, of the same or higher subcaste/caste of the bride and whose horoscope has been checked and matched with hers. He gives a piece of cloth (Pudava) to the bride in front of a lit lamp (symbolizing Agni) and eight auspicious objects (Ashtamangalyam), witnessed by the bride's kin and the groom's friends/kin. Sambandham was not necessarily a permanent arrangement (unlike Vedic Vivaha of Brahmins and many other castes, where the concept of divorce did not exist), even though in many or most cases it was lifelong. However, his innate weakness, i.e. divorce being permitted, of sambandham that helped maintain the integrity of the matrilineal tharavadu.

Sambandham can denote hypergamy between Nair women and Namboothiri men as well. Among the Namboodiris only the eldest son was permitted to marry (Veli, or Vedic Vivaha) within his caste (primogeniture) to maintain the integrity of ancestral property. The remaining younger sons marry through Sambandham with Kshatriya subcastes of Nairs or Samantha Kshatriya princesses (Royal families) or Ambalavasi. Since the offspring of these alliances were, as per Marumakkathayam, legally members of their mothers' castes and families, the Namboodiri father would not be legally obliged to provide for them. However, in most cases, he would give a part of the self-acquired property. This was known as Putravakasham (son's right) or Acchankoduthathu (father's gift). For the matrilineal castes, Sambandhams with Brahmins were a matter of prestige and social status. Thus, Sambandham was in both ways a gain to the castes involved. Namboodiri-Kshatriya and Namboodiri-Nair Sambandhams may also be considered morganatic marriages, for while the husband was of higher social status and the mother of relatively lower status, the children were still considered legitimate even though they did not inherit the titles or wealth of their fathers. However, Marxist and feminist anthropologist Kathleen Gough argues that there is little evidence that polyandry was rarely practiced in a few areas before 1800, while famous Kerala historian and anthropologist K. M. Panikkar has stated that "Nairs have no tradition of polyandry" in his 1918 paper about Nairs published by the Royal Anthropological Institute.

In the case of sambandham with Namboothiri men, the system benefited both the Namboothiri Brahmins as well as matrilineal castes like the Nairs for two reasons. First, Namboothiri Brahmins had institutionalized primogeniture, permitting only the eldest son to marry within the caste. Younger sons (also called aphans) in Namboothiri families were expected to establish sambandham with higher caste Nair (equivalent to Kshatriyas), Ambalavasi (temple service caste), royal Samantan or Kshatriya women. This allowed Nambudiri Brahmins to have more influence through close blood relations with the ruling elite and martial castes. Secondly, Nair families encouraged the sambandham arrangement with Namboothiri men, who were not involved in warfare and provided stable alliances, also increasing their tharavadu and caste status.