Wikipedia:Responding to a failure to discuss

As noted in the Dispute Resolution policy, all content dispute resolution procedures – Third Opinion, Dispute Resolution Noticeboard, and Request for Comments (though the requirement is very weak there ) – require thorough talk page discussion at the article talk page before a request for DR can be properly filed. This is because Wikipedia is built around a model of collaboration through discussion and edit summaries are not intended to substitute for that discussion.

What is an editor supposed to do when the other editor simply won't respond, or won't engage in the back-and-forth discussion that DR requires? There is no sure answer, but there are administrators who consider continuing to revert without discussing to be disruptive behavior and who will put pressure on the other editor to respond to you. This guide is intended to help editors put themselves in the best position to obtain such assistance.

Overview
To put yourself in that position:
 * Your hands must be clean.
 * The edit that you're asking for cannot be in violation of policy.
 * You must have asked the other editor to discuss the matter on the article talk page, at least twice.
 * You must have given the editor plenty of time to respond.
 * The other editor must have reverted your edit without talk page discussion after you made those requests.

The process
Here's the recommended process:

 Make sure your hands are clean: You're looking for an administrator who wants to do justice, but to receive justice you must have been just. If you're involved in an edit war with the other user, or have been engaged in a conduct dispute with them, or have been uncivil, fix that first. If there's been an edit war, with or without three-revert-rule violations, stop editing that article for a while. What's awhile? At least a week, longer is better, and a month is about right. If you've been involved in a conduct dispute or have been uncivil, (a) stop it and (b) apologize and (c) if you can withdraw, strike out, or revert your actions without looking like you're trying to hide something, do it. Wikipedia responds very favorably to repentance and self-correction. But don't be fake about it: If you're still being rude and aggressive and an edit warrior on other articles or in other venues, just playing nice on this article probably is not going to be enough. Your hands must remain clean throughout this process. Make sure that the edit you're asking for isn't a violation of policy or guidelines: No admin is going to go to bat for you if you're clearly wrong in what you want to do. If you are unsure about the relevant policies, feel free to ask a general question at the Teahouse. Do not mention the dispute itself or others' behavior. Frame your question like this, "I want to do X and I'm afraid that doing that might violate some policy. Will it?" Ask for discussion at the article talk page: Say what you want to do, why you want to do it, and give your sources. Do it at the article talk page, preferably in a new section entitled "Request for discussion", not at the other editor's user talk page. Avoid ad hominem arguments of any stripe: Instead, only discuss the edit and do not say a word about the other editor, at all. Not about their motives, their biases, their conflicts of interest, their skills, their habits, their competence, their point of view (POV), their insistence about that POV, nothing at all, period. Do not use profanity or insults. If you've already asked, but included any of that, see step 1 above, clean it up and apologize and ask again, nicely this time. Here at Wikipedia we discuss edits, not editors. Be brief: In discussing the edit be crystal-clear but brief. If you can't say what you want to do in a paragraph no longer than this one, then you should seriously consider breaking it down into smaller chunks if possible. If you want to include a draft of what you want to do, that's a great idea and it can be a little longer, but in no case create a wall-o-text. If there are a lot of little problems, such as a bunch of statements which you feel are not adequately sourced, feel free to list them all, but only attempt to discuss them one at a time. Avoid attempting to discuss broad topics such as "this whole article (or section) is a POV"; discuss fixes not complaints.  Immediately put a note on the other editor's user talk page asking them to come to the article to discuss the matter: It's best to use the talkback template for this, rather than using a custom-written note. Put the following code in a new section entitled "Discussion invitation: Article name " on their user talk page:  Wait: Check daily to see if there has been a response at either the article talk page or at their user talk page. If there has not been a reply in a week, it is probably safe to move to the next step. Ask again on the other editor's talk page and wait again: Essentially repeat the last two steps, above, but this time (a) make the section header on the user's talk page "Reminder: Discussion invitation ( Article name )" and use the same talkback code again and (b) only wait 72 hours after your message.</li> <li>Supplement your request for discussion on the article talk page: Once that second wait has passed say this at the article talk page: Do not make any other statements nor any threats.</li> <li>Immediately edit or revert with specific edit comment: Make your edit or reversion in the article. For the edit summary, say, "See request for discussion on talk page".</li> <li>If they revert without discussing: Do not revert their reversion. Instead, make a report at ANI or the Administrator's Edit-warring noticeboard. Read and exactly follow the instructions at either location, especially the parts about notifying the other editor. Don't be insulting, just state the facts. For example: "I tried to make an edit at page name on such and such date and was reverted by User:Other editors username . I requested on the article talk page that they discuss the matter with me, link to talk page section where you made the request, and left a talkback to that request on their user talk page link to the user talk page section where you placed the talkback . When I hadn't heard from them in X days, I left another talkback. When they still had not responded in X days, I tried the edit again and they reverted me again, still without discussing. The guidelines say that I can't get [[Wikipedia:Dispute resolution|dispute resolution]] without talk page discussion. What should I do? Isn't continuing to revert my edit without discussing it with me disruptive editing?" If you make a report at a noticeboard be aware that your own conduct will also come under scrutiny (see the advice on "clean hands," above).</li> </ol>

Good luck
There are too many variables and moving parts in this to be sure that this is always going to work, so good luck. If the other user does respond with anything other than, "I'm not going to discuss this with you", then let the discussion begin. You know all those "don'ts" in step 3, above? Keep them going, even if the other user does not. Incivility and trollishness only complicate matters. Stick to your content-only guns and you'll have the moral high ground going into dispute resolution if you have to go there.