Chinese ghost marriage

In Chinese tradition, a Ghost Marriage refers to a marriage in which one or both parties are deceased. In mainland China, the practice of ghost marriages involves two deceased individuals. Meanwhile, in special administrative regions, Taiwan and South East Asia, it involves one deceased individual and one living individual.

The practice of ghost marriages can be traced back to the Han Dynasty (206 B.C.-220 A.D.), with its participants being among those who were wealthy. Its origins are said to stem from the Chinese Yin and Yang philosophy, where the Yin has to merge with the Yang in order to achieve harmony and the philosophy of life after death. It was believed that if a person had died as a bachelor or bachelorette, his or her spirit would feel lonely in the afterlife, thus, breaking the Yin and Yang rule. As these spirits are unable to find harmony, many believed that they would return to cause harm to living family members and their descendants. Due to this belief, living family members would seek out deceased individuals of the opposite sex to accompany their deceased bachelor or bachelorette during burial, thus completing the Yin and Yang balance.

Today, many consider the real purpose of ghost marriages to be the appeasement of the minds of the living. It is a form of bereavement therapy practiced in ancient times that is kept alive by various Chinese communities today. Despite its long history and unique practices, the original purposes of ghost marriages remain largely unknown. Even so, ghost marriages are often stigmatized and surrounded with superstitions.

Worldwide, other forms of ghost marriages are also practiced, for example in France since 1959 (see posthumous marriage; compare levirate marriage and ghost marriage in South Sudan, i.e. marriage to a living relative of the deceased).

Reasons
For women in traditional Chinese culture, ghost marriages are often performed as it is considered shameful to be parents of an unwed daughter, with unmarried girls often being shunned from society. For men on the other hand, ghost marriages are often performed for the sake of progeny, as they allow the family's lineage carry on. The idea is that the spouse of a deceased male could adopt a child who would then carry on the lineage of the man's family. Other reasons for performing ghost marriages for deceased males include the family members of the deceased experiencing dreams or séances from the spirits of the males who have reportedly expressed their desire to be married. Additionally, according to certain Chinese traditions, there exists a saying where a younger brother should not be married before their older brothers, therefore, ghost marriages may be performed to stay in line with this tradition.

Arrangement
In some occasions, the family of a deceased person may choose to use a priest as a matchmaker. In other occasions, the family may choose to leave out a red envelope with gifts, believing that the deceased person's spouse would eventually reveal themselves.

Sometimes, when the fiancé of a woman dies and she is to engage in a ghost marriage, her participation in the man's funeral service would often involve mourning rituals, taking a vow of celibacy, and soon thereafter, taking up residence with the man's family. The opposite rituals involving the ghost marriage of a man with a deceased female fiancé however, remains rather unknown due to a lack of records regarding the matter.

Performance
Ghost marriages are relatively similar to weddings and funerals, whereby the participants' families will often exchange gifts such as cakes, clothes, and money, in varying sizes.

Effigies made of bamboo, colored paper, or cloth would be used to represent the deceased person(s) and are typically clothed in Chinese bridal wear and groomswear, which would later be burned. Most of the marriage rites involved in such proceedings are said to be performed the same way regular Chinese marriages are usually performed.

Theft of female corpses
The practice of ghost marriages have led to reported cases of female corpses being stolen. Between 2017 and 2019, it was reported that a black market of female corpses had surfaced in the provinces of Shandong, Shanxi and Shaanxi. A female dead body is said to have a price of several hundred thousand RMB for the purposes of a ghost marriage. Furthermore, it is said that corpses of married, elderly women have also become targeted for such illegal trade. In 2019, several graveyards in the Henan province resorted to installing CCTV cameras and utilizing concrete coffins to prevent such thefts.

Types
Chinese ghost marriages are typically arranged by the family members of the deceased and are performed for a number of reasons, such as to marry an engaged couple after one or both party(s) death, to integrate an unmarried daughter into a patrilineage,  to ensure the continuation of the family line,  or to wed unmarried, deceased older brothers before their younger brothers.

Previously engaged
Upon the death of her fiancé, a bride could choose to continue on with the wedding. In such cases, the groom would be represented by a white cockerel at the ceremony. Some women, however, are said to be hesitant about such proceedings as these forms of ghost marriages would require them to participate in funeral rituals, mourning customs (that entail a strict dress code and standards of conduct), taking a vow of celibacy, and to immediately take up residence with the deceased groom's family.

A groom on the other hand, also has the option of marrying his late fiancée, with no disadvantages posed to himself as he would be free to marry again in the future, but there has been a lack of records surrounding such weddings.

Providing deceased daughters with a patrilineage
In many Chinese households, an altar is often prominently displayed with the spirit tablets of paternal ancestors and the images of the gods. The tablet of a married woman is kept at the altar of her husband's family. Should a woman of an eligible age pass away unmarried, her family would be prohibited from placing her tablet on the altar of her natal home. They would instead, obtain a temporary paper tablet for her that would be placed in a corner near the door. Due to this, a deceased and unmarried woman is said to have no descendants that would worship her or care for her as part of their lineage. Many Chinese parents therefore assume the important duty of marrying their children off, especially their daughters who are only able to acquire membership in descent lines through marriage. Also for these reasons, ghost marriages are seen as a solution in ensuring that unmarried, deceased daughters could still be connected to a male descent line and be appropriately cared for after death.

Another death custom concerning an unmarried daughter prohibits her from dying in her natal home. Instead, temples or "Death Houses" for spinsters were built. Some families also choose to take their daughters to sheds, empty houses, or outlying buildings to die.

Living, unmarried daughters
In Chinese culture, an unmarried daughter is said to be a source of great embarrassment and concern. In Charlotte Ikels's "Parental Perspectives on the Significance of Marriage", she reports that, "Traditionally, girls who did not marry were regarded as a threat to the entire family and were not allowed to continue living at home. Even in contemporary Hong Kong, it is believed unmarried women are assumed to have psychological problems. Presumably no normal person would remain unmarried voluntarily." For girls who choose to remain unmarried, engaging in a "bride-initiated spirit marriage" (or a ghost marriage initiated by a living bride) is seen as a successful "marriage-resistance practice" as it allowed them to remain single and still be integrated into a lineage. This however, did evoke some negative reactions such as, having the ghost marriage called a "fake spirit-marriage", being referred to as someone "marrying a spirit tablet", or simply being seen as someone attempting to avoid marriage.

Continuing the family line
If a son dies before he is married, his parents may choose to arrange a ghost marriage in order to allow him his own descendants that would continue on the family's lineage. As put by James Dyer, "A man in China does not marry so much for his own benefit as for that of the family: to continue the family name; to provide descendants to keep up the ancestral worship; and to give a daughter-in-law to his mother to wait on her and be, in general, a daughter to her." The ceremony itself has the characteristics of both a marriage and a funeral, with the spirit of the deceased bride being "led" by a medium or priest, while her body is transferred from her grave to be laid next to her husband. At times, a living woman may be taken as a wife for a deceased, unmarried man, but this is rare.

If a family were "suitably rich to tempt a [living] girl," a ghost marriage might profit them with a daughter-in-law. As a daughter is not considered "a potential contributor to the lineage into which she is born," but rather "is expected [to] give the children she bears and her adult labor to the family of her husband," the wife of a deceased son would benefit her husband's family by becoming a caregiver in their home. Upon providing the deceased son with a wife, the family could then also adopt an heir, or a "grandson", who would continue on the family line.

As daughter-in-laws married through ghost marriages are expected to live a chaste life, their purpose is not to produce offsprings but to become a "social instrument" that would enable the husband's family to adopt. Such families would often prefer to adopt patrilineally related male kins, usually through a brother who would assign one of his own sons to the lineage of the deceased. The adoption would be carried out through a written contract which would then be placed under the dead man's tablet. Following this, the adopted son would be expected to make ancestral offerings on his birth and death dates, and is additionally, "entitled to inherit his foster father's share of the family estate."

Requests from the afterworld
Ghost marriages are often arranged at the request of the deceased spirits, who upon "finding itself without a spouse in the other world," causes misfortune for its natal family, the family of its betrothed,  or the family of the deceased's married sisters. "This usually takes the form of sickness by one or more family members. When the sickness is not cured by ordinary means, the family turns to divination and learns of the plight of the ghost through a séance."

More benignly, a spirit may also appear to a family member in a dream and request a spouse. Marjorie Topley, in "Ghost Marriages Among the Singapore Chinese: A Further Note," relates the story of a 14-year-old Cantonese boy who had died. A month later he appeared to his mother in a dream saying that he wished to marry a girl who had recently died in Ipoh, Perak. As the son had not revealed her name; his mother used a Cantonese spirit medium and "through her, the boy gave the name of the girl together with her place of birth and age, and details of her horoscope which were subsequently found to be compatible with his."

Other instances of ghost marriage
As Chinese customs dictate that a younger brother should not be married before their older brothers, a ghost marriage for an older, deceased brother may be arranged just before a younger brother's wedding to avoid "incurring the disfavor of his brother's ghost."

Additionally, in the early days of immigration, ghost marriages were said to have been used to "cement a bond of friendship between two families", however, no recent cases of such have been reported.

Arrangement
If a family wishes to arrange a ghost marriage, they may consult with a matchmaker of sorts. In the Cantonese area of Singapore "there is in fact a ghost marriage broker's sign hung up in a doorway of a Taoist priest's home. The broker announces that he is willing to undertake the search for a family which has a suitable deceased member with a favorable horoscope."

Others do not use the aid of priests or diviners, believing that the groom the ghost-bride has chosen "[would] somehow identify himself." Some families may choose to lay a red envelope (typically used for money gifts) as bait in the middle of the road and hide. When the envelope is picked up by a passerby, the family members would then reveal themselves and announce the passerby's status of being the chosen bridegroom.

Dowries and bridewealth
The exchange of bridewealth and dowries between the families involved in a ghost marriage varies. Some families may exchange both, while others may simply gift red money packets. While there are no standards in the amount exchanged, several of Janice Stockard's informants have reported instances whereby the groom's family had provided the bride with a house. In another report involving a ghost marriage, the groom's family had sent wedding cakes and NT $120 to the bride's family, who then returned it with a dowry of a gold ring, a gold necklace, several pairs of shoes, and six dresses, "all fitted for the use of the groom's living wife."

Rites of the ghost marriage ceremony
In a ghost marriage, many of the typical marriage rites are observed. However, since one or both parties are usually deceased, they are often represented by effigies made of paper, bamboo, or cloth.

For instance, to represent the ghost couple at their marriage feast, the bride and groom may be constructed of paper bodies over a bamboo frame with a papier-mâché head. Respective paper servants would stand on either side of them, and the room would contain many other paper effigies of products that would be used in their home, such as a dressing table (complete with a mirror), a table with six stools, a money safe, a refrigerator, and trunks of paper clothes and cloth. After the marriage ceremony is complete, the paper belongings would be burned to be sent to the spirit world for use by the couple.

In a separate ceremony that married a living groom to a ghost bride, her effigy had been constructed with a wooden backbone, arms made from newspaper, and a head of "a smiling young girl clipped from a wall calendar." Similarly, after the marriage festivities, the effigy is burned.

In both cases, the effigies wore real clothing, similar to what is typically worn in marriage ceremonies. These often include a pair of trousers, a white shirt, a red dress, and an outer lace dress. If a living groom were to marry ghost bride, he would wear black gloves instead of the typical white. Additionally, the effigies were often adorned with bridal jewelry, though none of which were made of real gold.

Most of the marriage ceremony and rites performed during a ghost marriage remains true to Chinese customs. The deceased bride would always be treated as if she were still living and participating in such proceedings. She would be 'fed' at the wedding feast in the morning, be 'invited' in and out of the cab, and have her 'arrival' announced at the groom's house. One observable difference in a ghost marriage, is that the ancestral tablet of the deceased would be placed inside the effigy, so that "the bride's dummy [is] animated with the ghost that [is] to be married". At the end of the marriage festivities, the tablet is then placed with the other tablets of the groom's family.

Popular culture
Writer Yangsze Choo's 2013 novel, "The Ghost Bride", utilized the principles of ghost marriages as its central premise. It became a New York Times best-seller and was selected as a Best Book by Oprah.com. It later formed the basis of the Netflix-original series, The Ghost Bride, which was co-directed by Malaysian directors Quek Shio-chuan and Ho Yu-hang. It starred Huang Pei-jia, Wu Kang-jen, Ludi Lin, and Kuang Tian.

Marry My Dead Body also features a ghost marriage as its main plot. It was selected as the closing film for the 2022 Golden Horse International Film Festival.