Talk:Celibacy/Archive 1

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Catholic priests

I'd like to add something about Catholic priests, in terms of both celibacy and chastity. In particular, let's address the issue of homosexual priests. Since Catholicism does not deem homosexality itself sinful, a homosexual ought to be able to take the same vow of chastity (or celibacy?) as any other priest. Is this correct? Ed Poor 17:51, 18 December 2001 (UTC)

Yes -Ben 05:53, 27 April 2002 (UTC)

Not exactly. The recent Vatican document argues that celibacy in the sense of priestly celibacy is not a gift to someone who is homosexual and uninterested in marriage. — Preceding unsigned comment added by Cestusdei (talk • contribs) 05:44, 4 March 2006 (UTC)

By the way, the old articles on celibacy and chastity were identical with the last paragraph of the Holy Orders article. — Preceding unsigned comment added by Conversion script (talk • contribs) 15:43, 25 February 2002 (UTC)

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This looks like as good a place as any to put this:

The Catholic and Orthodox churches holds themselves to Canon 6 of the Council of Trullo in 692, which reads as follows:

"Since it is declared in the apostolic canons that of those who are advanced to the clergy unmarried, only lectors and cantors are able to marry; we also, maintaining this, determine that henceforth it is in nowise lawful for any subdeacon, deacon or presbyter after his ordination to contract matrimony but if he shall have dared to do so, let him be deposed. And if any of those who enter the clergy, wishes to be joined to a wife in lawful marriage before he is ordained subdeacon, deacon, or presbyter, let it be done." -Ben Brumfield 05:53, 27 April 2002 (UTC)

Two points: 1. it's the Council IN Trullo rather than OF. The Trullo was a part of the imperial palace at Constantinople, so it is like referring to the Capitol in our nation's Capital, or like the legislative affairs column in a state-capital newspaper being called "Under the Dome." Indeed, I think 'Trullo' may be a version of 'vault' or 'dome'. 2. The Latin Church did not accept the disciplinary canons of the Council in Trullo. Western rules on celibacy do not base themselves on that council (which also prohibited representations of Christ as a Lamb [Lamb of God] - one of the first signs of the coming Iconoclastic controversy). The rules for the non-Latin rites of the Catholic Church are actually separate (with their own ocde of canon law). MichaelTinkler 06:09, 27 April 2002 (UTC)

Thank you

Thank you for resonding for my call to assistance, AdelaMae and Hideouslywrinkled. Unfortunately, there were some mistakes. The Reformers did not give alternative interpretations of verses cited in favor of celibacy. hey cited verses they thought were against it, and their reasoning belongs in the Humor section (read the verses they cited). If it was people outside the Church thinking married priesthood was a solution, it would not even be mentioned (Catholics do not tell Muslims what colors they should paint their mosques to attract converts). Unfortunately, this opinion is held by many high-rank officials in the Church (but note: the insincere ones). And, as I said previously, "The sectors of the Church where vocations are the highest are those where the Church's teachings are followed, and the sectors where these teachings are not followed have the lowest." The data DOES exist, but I need to find it.JBogdan 15:44, 9 April 2006 (UTC)

Other traditions following celibacy

I have added some reference to celebacy being practiced in both Hindu and Buddhist traditions. Certainly it is not only practiced within the Christian world - maybe people could expand these areas in order to make the article more 'global' in it's focus. How is it seen in different countries and cultures around the world? 82.163.63.228 15:19, 31 May 2006 (UTC)

Proposed infobox for individual birth control method articles

Let's all work on reaching a consensus for a new infobox to be placed on each individual birth control method's article. I've created one to start with on the Wikipedia Proposed Infoboxes page, so go check it out and get involved in the process. MamaGeek (Talk/Contrib) 12:18, 14 June 2006 (UTC)

Why Musical Linguist is downgrading the Wikipedia by deleting contributions?

I recently added a section about History of Celibacy. My additions showed when and who started the tradition of celibacy in Catholic Church.

Why Musical Linguist deleted them?

In my opinion he is downgrading Wikipedia by selectively editing chosen articles to enforce his agenda. The discussion about his other contribution clearly show that.

Please, let the moderator show his clear view and ban Musical Linguist from constant misediting wikipedia pages.

Thank you. User:83.19.104.34

Why did she do it? - Because your edits were downgrading WP by adding false information.

• Clerics (or laypeople) were never allowed by canon law to have concubines. Concubines are "unlawful" by definition.
• Clerics were allowed to keep wives married before their ordination - in the Latin Rite up to the 11th century - in the Eastern Rites until today.
• Clerics were never allowed to marry, only allowed to retain their wives, albeit under certain restrictions.
• The ordinance of Pelagius I, if he issued such a thing, has nothing to do with marriages. It merely protects Church property and reiterates something that should be obvious to any moral person, Christian or not.
• There is no doubt that many clerics had, in spite of canon law and morality, concubines and hence there are also reiterations of the ban, e.g. by Pope Benedict VIII.
• The property question certainly has a part in the 11th century implementation of general celibacy, but you are overdoing it. Spiritual reasons were much more prevalent, as many believers demanded to have celibate priests.

Good day, Str1977 ^{(smile back)} 09:49, 8 July 2006 (UTC)

Redirect

The article homosexual celibacy redirects to this page, but this page lacks any mention of celibacy due to reasons involving sexual or gender identity, nor anything of that nature. While it probably can fall into reasons for celibacy, it could potentially be an additional section; I have therefore added an request for expansion. (And please don't suggest that it should go into the homosexuality article instead - that thing is huge already!) - Heartofgoldfish 15:03, 7 August 2006 (UTC)

Not my area, but I'll consider it.--T. Anthony 15:57, 28 August 2006 (UTC)

Religious/clerical celibacy

I would suggest the whole section on religious celibacy is too focused on the Catholic church. Of course it is a major topic of debate and interest within that Church, but surely the subject of the Catholic view of celibacy should be a subset (albeit a substantial one) of a general heading on celibacy due to religious belief, since practitioners of other variants of Christendom (and of other faiths) may also choose celibacy because of their beliefs. 82.153.129.223 23:54, 28 August 2006 (UTC)

There's a seperate article on clerical celibacy that I think it would be better for this article to refer users to who are interested in that aspect of celibacy. The whole article needs a re0write and I've started to do a bit of a literature search (this not being my field, it takes days at the library which are few and far between :-). From what I've seen so far, we should have 4 sections on the "whys": religious belief and practice, physical/biological causes; social reasons (including involuntary celibacy); and cultural forces. There has been a request to cover homosexual celibacy (and the article homosexual celibacy points to this article), but from my search so far, homosexual celibacy doesn't seem to be rooted in anything different from hetrosexual celibacy. So I was thinking of incorporating homosexual perspectives throughout the article rather than having a seperate section. --SiobhanHansa 00:55, 29 August 2006 (UTC)

The article is not that large. How much of it do you want to devote to homosexual celibacy? Is it really that important of a subset? (The figures I've seen indicate it might be overrepresented, but it'd still only be around 15%)--T. Anthony 04:28, 29 August 2006 (UTC)

I wasn't thinking it would be a huge bit, more that it would make it clear that (for the most part) reasons for celibacy, and approaches for handling it, were not related to sexual orientation. I'm still reading up on this, so I'm not clear how I'd do it. Feel free to edit yourself :-) --SiobhanHansa 13:14, 29 August 2006 (UTC)

Merge this with 'clerical celibacy'?

I think this page should be merged with the entry about 'clerical celibacy'. While the content is partly the same, the entry for 'clerical celibacy' is more detailed, better structured and less biased. I stumbled upon the 'celibacy' entry when I wanted to find out something about the history of celibacy in the catholic church, but all I found was a biased argument why celibacy is a good thing and why all who say otherwise are 'insincere', 'uninformed' or 'humourous' (luckily, the latter two terms have been edited out). Even the external links don't provide information, but only propaganda for clerical celibacy. As you see, I think the 'clerical celibacy' entry is far superiour and this one should link to the other. 80.218.144.173 (talk) 10:24, 7 May 2006 (UTC)

I agree. An article on "celibacy" that doesn't include clerics is fairly meaningless. Why would anyone care? Merge. A link to "clerical celibacy" is okay in the short run, but merge and delete this article long term. -student- 67.8.201.227 (talk) 01:50, 6 November 2006 (UTC)

List of famous celibates?

I wonder if this article could benefit from a "list of famous celibate people", like the "list of famous..." in other articles such as the one about homosexuality. A rather famous celibate is Paul Erdös, and Friedrich Nietzsche was also one by some accounts.

• Friedrich Nietzsche died of Syphilis, now: where could he have contracted that as a celibatarian? Kraxler 16:53, 28 November 2006 (UTC)

Good idea.

I will add a list of notable celibates to the article. One I can think of is Anne Widdecombe. Walton monarchist89 17:11, 15 January 2007 (UTC)

• I could have sworn I saw something on TV that said Kyle Brady was celibate, but considering his article says he is married and has a son, that doesn't appear to be correct. Recury 16:33, 8 February 2007 (UTC)

Cleanup

This article needs a lot of cleanup. I made a start, but a lot more needs to be done. Here's what I see:

• References: Still need 'em, especially in the light of creeping OR and POV. Perhaps some of the "External links" could be converted to references.
• Roman Catholic clerical celibacy: A lot of this text should be removed, or moved to other articles. (Clerical celibacy, Clerical celibacy (Catholic Church), Roman Catholic sex abuse cases, etc.)
• Secular celibacy: A lot more information about secular aspects of celibacy would help. Are there organizations or notable manifestos promoting secular celibacy? What about the historical view of the risks of celibacy (e.g green sickness)?

--Shunpiker 17:06, 31 May 2007 (UTC)

New Page from this one or references for this page?

Just an idea, but can the medical opinions from this site be made into a new page for "Health Benefits of Celibacy"? www.semenloss.com There are many citations from doctors. Unfornuately some of the sources are only from the work of Dr. Bernard. But many of the sources are from the original author's directly. As108 02:04, 13 July 2007 (UTC)

Picture suggestion

This article lacks pictures. How about someone introducing a picture of a couple not engaging in sexual behavior before marriage. Perhaps a shot of people walking down a street, eating some ice-cream or having sexual intercourse. Oops - not that one :-) - Bennyboyz3000 07:09, 6 August 2007 (UTC)

Lopsided views

This article is very lopsided; more than half of it touches on the Christian aspect of celibacy. The practical and secular forms of celibacy (such as the involuntary celibacy experienced by professed nerds) are mentioned in the opening, but largely ignored by the rest of the article. Even the section which deals with reasons for celibacy makes a highly biased statement on celibacy by quoting the Apostle Paul verbatim at the end. I'm not sure how we could rebalance the article, because celibacy is usually associated with religion in the first place, but a good start might be to focus more on celibacy in non-Christian religions and the secular celibate. Johnleemk | Talk 17:08, 14 December 2006 (UTC)

"Nerdish celibacy" is not historically significant or studied enough to matter that much. Although there has been activists of a secular nature who decided to be celibate in order to devote more time to their respective movements. That was more true in the nineteenth century, and earlier, as sex then was more likely to lead to children. I believe several of the early feminists were celibate. And it might be too focused on Christians specifically Catholics. There have been Protestant celibates and among the Religious Society of Friends I think "spinster celibates" were not too unusual. I remember reading something on a Quaker site about them considering celibacy to be one among many sexual options a person may choose. There could maybe be a bit more on people on the autistic spectrum, as well as other conditions, as there are conditions/disabilities that are disproportionately celibate. I believe some autists find sex unpleasant or even disorienting because of neurological factors. Also I think a bit more on celibacy in Dharmic religions could be helpful.--T. Anthony 09:35, 30 May 2007 (UTC)

I think the Shakers (distinct from the Quakers) should also be mentioned. They have practically died out as a sect because of celibacy and a failure to win converts. Ranthlee 23:38, 10 August 2007 (UTC)

Islam section

I have added the Islam section, with myself being a muslim and already knowing alot about celibacy in Islam.

I have researched alot about it before putting the info in, and have tried to make it as neutral as possible. —Preceding unsigned comment added by 86.137.25.71 (talk) 18:11, 6 October 2007 (UTC)

POV tag

I'm doing POV tag cleanup. Whenever an POV tag is placed, it is necessary to also post a message in the discussion section stating clearly why it is thought the article does not comply with POV guidelines, and suggestions for how to improve it. This permits discussion and consensus among editors. This is a drive-by tag, which is discouraged in WP, and it shall be removed. Future tags should have discussion posted as to why the tag was placed, and how the topic might be improved. Better yet, edit the topic yourself with the improvements. This statement is not a judgement of content, it is only a cleanup of frivolously and/or arbitrarily placed tags. No discussion, no tag.Jjdon (talk) 17:46, 26 April 2008 (UTC)

I have edited one of the reasons for celibacy

The article read like this "An inability to find a sexual partner that one finds acceptable or tolerable" with a link to involuntary Celibacy. Involuntary Celibacy is if a person is unable to find a sexual partner. If one can find a sexual partner but refuse their Celibacy is not Involuntary it is due to their choice. —Preceding unsigned comment added by Chris smith jones (talk • contribs) 16:36, 8 May 2008 (UTC)

A reason for celibacy?

I was reading this article and I noticed that one possible reason for celibacy is missing. It is the reason I have chosen to become a celibate: I have a mental disorder that many people are trying to cure (I won't mention which one because it's not relevant in this context), and I have become a celibate so that I cannot have children and therefore cannot contribute to the continuation of this mental disorder's gene.

What I'm saying is, do enough people become celibates for the reason that they cannot reproduce and therefore not give their unborn children undesirable genetic qualities (like defects, mental disorders, ect.)? If so, would this be worth putting on this article? Pippin the Mercury (talk) 00:21, 24 June 2008 (UTC)

I think that would be a good thing to add, but you've got to find an article or something that mentions this so that you have a citation. Cowgod14 (talk) 21:21, 30 June 2008 (UTC)

Why were two celibate people removed?

I added two very well known celibates, Jessica Simpson (took a vow of celibacy at 12 and remain a virgin until her marriage to Nick Lashey) and Britney Spears (famous for her celibacy as a teen) and they were removed without reason. Apparently these were not celibates as they were in their young 20s. I don't believe to be any sort of valid reason for a vow of celibacy to be valid, especially considering Jessica and Britney took a "vow of Celibacy" which is what the article is all about. —Preceding unsigned comment added by Bbx118 (talk • contribs) 15:46, 14 October 2007 (UTC)

I disagree that these are cases covered by celibacy as it is discussed in this article. In the lede we define a vow of celibacy as a promise not to enter into marriage or engage in sexual intercourse (my emphasis). These two cases are more virginity pledges than vows of celibacy. -- SiobhanHansa 20:00, 14 October 2007 (UTC)

Celibacy is defined as referring to be being either unmarried or to sexual abstinence., the cases mentioned cover both in this instance. —Preceding unsigned comment added by Bbx118 (talk • contribs) 15:25, 17 October 2007 (UTC)

You're reading that as an either one or the other case, but by that reasoning anyone who has sex but isn't married is celibate, which isn't what this article intends. I also think the two cases are much clearer examples of virginity pledges than celibacy. The list is, to be fair, a huge mess anyway, and it's not as though I think these are the only two poor inclusions. -- SiobhanHansa 14:06, 21 October 2007 (UTC)

Siobhan - I can surely confirm that no, I'm not reading that as an either one or the other case, I'm using the exact definition given. Jessica Simpson in her case took a vow of celibacy, it doesn't get any clearer or more defined than that. —Preceding unsigned comment added by 81.79.81.125 (talk) 22:27, 5 November 2007 (UTC)

So you're using the idea that every person who is unmarried and is not currently engaging in sex is celibate and from that any star who has ever said that they are (or were once) unmarried and not engaging in sex is a notable celibate?

BTW the source you provided for Simpson does not mention a vow of celibacy - in fact it doesn't include the word celibacy or celibate, nor does it say she in anyway said she would refrain from marrying. It says she took a vow of chastity and that she envisioned wedlock as a fairy tale where she would remain a virgin for her husband which indicates that her vow of chastity did not include a conscious decision to refrain from marriage. I'm just pointing out that these are nuanced terms and you seem to be treating virginity, chastity and celibacy as interchangeable. -- SiobhanHansa 03:23, 6 November 2007 (UTC)

I am removing again the names of actress Jessica Simpson and Britney Spears a very-well know whore. Get married as a virgin do not implies celibacy. My grandmother and my mother and millions of peoples engaged in their weddings in virgin state, due this was be a cultural ethics. Don't be stupid your moron. Rodrigo Zauli —Preceding unsigned comment added by 201.62.161.228 (talk) 14:27, 30 October 2007 (UTC)

To the Wikipedia Team: Can we discard the above immature comments? I've re-applied the names Britney Spears and Jessica Simpson. —Preceding unsigned comment added by 81.79.81.125 (talk) 22:24, 5 November 2007 (UTC)

I agree with discarding the stupid/moron comment, though I think the rest of what he said was fine. How about having 2 separate sublists? One list could be for people who are permanently celibate, and the other list could be for people who are only waiting for marriage. Both categories are worth mentioning, but I think they should be separate. There's a big difference between someone who never has sex and someone who only has sex while married. --cowgod14 26 June 2008 —Preceding comment was added at 16:31, 26 June 2008 (UTC)

Anyone who's over about 30 and is still a virgin is unusual in most societies today, but choosing to remain a virgin until marriage is not as unusual as the media might make you think. Some might slip from it if love takes a while to happen, or subsequently become keen on sex as seperate from love, but those who remain celibate because Mr/Mrs Right doesn't come along and they won't settle for Mr/Mrs Right Now are notable.--MartinUK (talk) 18:45, 14 October 2008 (UTC)

Main reason for celibacy?

Am I missing a vital piece of context for the "Reasons for celibacy" section of this article? It seems to me that the most obvious reason for celibacy, and one I would like to add to the list, is:

• An inability to obtain a willing sexual partner, due to social awkwardness or anxiety, physical or mental handicap, or lack of physical attractiveness and/or financial resources.

Blackworm 01:53, 1 May 2006 (UTC)

Consider it done. Chris Henniker 16:26, 26 June 2006 (UTC)

Original research. —Preceding unsigned comment added by 208.100.228.106 (talk) 12:33, 13 April 2008 (UTC)

Sounds like common sense. If you can't get something, you can't have it.--MartinUK (talk) 18:56, 14 October 2008 (UTC)

Original meaning

"The old meaning of this term was "to have sexual intercourse only with one's wife".

Anybody got a source on the "the original meaning of celibacy" quote? The author seems to be describing what's sometimes referred to as "continence". -Ben Brumfield

Exactly. Leaving aside the fact that celibacy is a noun and "to have sexual intercourse only with one's wife" is a verb, I've checked OED and there's no evidence for any such meaning. The original sense was "unmarried" and the current one is "not having sex". Deleted that sentence. Flapdragon 6 July 2005 22:30 (UTC)

"To have sexual intercourse only with one's wife" is an infinitive phrase, which serves perfecly well as a noun phrase, as in "To have sexual intercourse only with one's wife is a worse fate than reading Wikipedia." The original sense was "unmarried", and the current sense is "unmarried"; the sense "not having sex" is used out of ignorance by people unfamiliar both with the word "celibacy" and the term "sexually abstinent". The manner in which this article vacillates between these senses without any apparent clue that two senses even exist, or that one of them is colloquial and very recent, is clear warning that this article, frankly, sucks. 71.126.140.52 (talk) 06:10, 7 January 2009 (UTC)

This is a response to Ed poor's post.

I believe that if you take a vow of chastisy you should keep it. It doesn't matter if you are homosexual or heterosexual. There have been a lot of things in the news about Priests sleeping with boys because "It is not against the doctrine" This kinda makes me mad. (Gothsrus (talk) 16:26, 19 February 2009 (UTC))

Possible copyvio

Hi. Please see the article history. I removed text added by User_talk:64.252.184.216 which seemed to be a copyright violation from http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1906063,00.html - unless of course Time borrowed it from Wikipedia in the first place? DBaK (talk) 15:47, 23 June 2009 (UTC)

Essay from User:Prithviraj chouhan

Hi. Please see the article history. I removed what appeared to be a long and not entirely encyclopaedic essay from User:Prithviraj chouhan. Please feel free to discuss it here if you think it should be in. Thanks DBaK (talk) 15:49, 23 June 2009 (UTC)

Celibacy on the Buddhist religion is missing

I am not pro Buddhist but since the monastic tradition of Buddhism whether Mahayana or Theravada practiced celibacy for men & women for thousands of years is a good reason to add the Buddhist religion as one of the advocates of celibacy today.--121.54.68.114 (talk) 12:40, 12 August 2009 (UTC)

Needs coverage of health implications

This article really should cover the health implications of celibacy. It kind of glosses over the health disadvantages. Zodon (talk) 09:26, 2 September 2010 (UTC)

They're really health implications of sexual abstinence rather than celibacy, so they're discussed at Sexual abstinence#Possible physical effects. Pais (talk) 09:37, 2 September 2010 (UTC)

Suggest merging all celibacy entries

Currently there is an "involuntary celibacy" entry that exceeds the length of this main celibacy entry. By combining entries the main points will be sorted out and lead down the line to stronger interconnected pages on the topic. For now, there appears to be some pages with social focus, others with psychological, some with heavy opinion statements, etc. This main celibacy page is the correct venue to sort through content and potential wikipedia policy violations (98.218.218.120 (talk) 05:17, 30 October 2010 (UTC)).

Introduction that created dispute

Please correct my point of view if I'm wrong, but I think that the key of celibacy is to avoid civil unions and sexual relationships (not intercourse!). And "abstention from sexual relationships" is correct, but not intercourse.

Maybe it never was. Maybe I'm just dumb. So... just note that. Thank you,184.163.123.4 (talk) 02:45, 19 December 2010 (UTC)

No, celibacy means abstaining from sexual intercourse or other carnal pleasures. in most religions, this is tantamount to abstaining from marriage (since few if any religions condone sexuality outside of marriage), but the key element is maintaining physical purity. Note that religions often talk about the importance of celibacy prior to marriage (strict Catholic diocese, for instance, will insist that couples remain celibate during their engagement, and technically are supposed to refuse to marry couples that don't). Full celibacy (such as those that Catholic priests and nuns and Buddhist monks undertake) also prohibits marriage, but not because of the marriage itself: Priests and nuns are doctrinally married to Christ, and Buddhists surrender all worldly cravings. --Ludwigs2 05:11, 19 December 2010 (UTC)

Definitions can be confusing, and celibacy is sometimes defined as abstaining from marriage. But as Ludwigs2 suggests, I think that definition stems from the days when "marriage" and "a relationship involving sexual intercourse" were effectively synonyms - and by remaining unmarried, that was effectively saying one was abstaining from sexual intercourse. Today, many people have active sex lives without marrying - but I really don't think anyone would consider that to be celibacy. And to add something to the Buddhist monk thing, in my wife's native Thailand, it's fairly common for married men to become monks for a temporary period - they are required to be celibate during that time, but that means abstaining from sexual intercourse, not getting a divorce. -- Boing! said Zebedee (talk) 14:04, 19 December 2010 (UTC)

Catholic Church

I have studied the Scriptures at length, and have failed to find the ancient tradition spoke of in this section. I also have found that the reference of "The Resurrection" spoken of by the Messiah may be taken out of context. If you read (it isn't hard to do) you will find that the resurrection is BEFORE judgment, when the Bride of The Elohim is chosen. After Judgment, they will be The Elohim's Bride, in Marriage.

I have also found, that there seems to be an inconsistency with the whole sentence that contains the phrase "celibacy is not a doctrine of the Church but a church rule or discipline." I would like some elaboration and explanation on this, as I thought (as written in Doctrine), a doctrine is a church rule, law, or discipline (systematic instruction given to a disciple. i.e. an instruction) which fits into "a body of teachings" or "instructions", as noted by Doctrine, as well as the fact that each of these "Church Rules" vary from system to system, they could even fit "as the body of teachings in a branch of knowledge or belief system."

One more thing... I would love to see the passage in the Scriptures that allow the Church to go ahead and Override the Elohim's laws, change the festivals, change the day of rest/worship, and create these "new laws."

—Preceding unsigned comment added by 71.238.149.253 (talk) 20:15, 1 December 2009 (UTC)

Hi,

I just skimmed through the article. I didn't read the resurrection bit so I'll leave that.

However the discipline vs doctrine question I can probably assist with. I believe what that is expressing is that Catholics don't believe that God requires priests to be celibate. So in that sense it isn't a doctrine. However there was a long history of problems with the call to live as eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven and the rule attempts to address that. Now I haven't looked at the definitions so you might be right but that is the distinction intended when the terms are used (misused).

You obviously like studying the scriptures at length so I invite you to focus on the New Testament to get the answer to your subsequent questions. Skip past the gospels and you will be getting warm. Since you don't use the term Jehovah can I assume you are a seventh day adventist or are you from a smaller group? Most Christians consider it licit to celebrate Christmas, have the Lord's day as our sabbath and organise housekeeping within the Church. If adventists are anything like their JW offshoots your Bible might be tweaked for your belief system. If so you might not find the stuff and I apologise for sending you on a wild goose chase. Yeenar (talk) 01:57, 4 December 2009 (UTC)

We read that "In the Roman Catholic Church the apostles were considered the first priests and bishops in the Church and the call to be eunuchs in Matthew 19 referred to above is considered to be a call to be sexually continent. This developed into mandatory celibacy for priests who are believed to be the successors of the apostles." I believe that mandatory celibacy is the order of the day in the RC Church so why is the RC Church state of affairs re this topic not removed from the 'Celebicy' section and instead posted in the Involuntary celibacy section?Eog1916 (talk) 06:52, 25 October 2010 (UTC)

Because you won't be ordained to priesthood involuntarily.--Turris Davidica (talk) 09:32, 25 October 2010 (UTC)

I agree with the Eog comment above. Who is to say that RC priest celibacy is voluntary or involuntary? By saying that the article on "Celibacy" refers to only voluntary celibates and inserting the RC priesthood under this, Wiki seems to be assuming that priests freely choose celibacy not just before ordination but throughout their priesthood. In fact, I know of many priests who left active clerical ministry because they struggled for years as involuntary celibate priests. Can we please improve on this asap; it is highly problematic. — Preceding unsigned comment added by 65.96.7.124 (talk) 22:57, 16 August 2011 (UTC)

Socio-sexual activity at a distance

Are people who engage in sexual activity with others at a distance, such as cybersex, sexting and phone sex regarded as celibate if they don't engage in any sexual activity in person with anyone? Does sex chat etc with someone who is miles away from the person mean that the person is not celibate, or does a person have to have actual sex to be not considered celibate? How about a person who chooses to take part in mutual masturbation whilst in the same room with someone, but chooses to never have intercourse - is he celibate? The article should state where the line is drawn to define the threshold of where celibacy begins and ends. 188.28.227.101 (talk) 18:04, 4 June 2012 (UTC)

Dada Bhagwan – The Science of Celibacy

Practice of Celibacy There are two things in this world that one should not waste, One is money and the other is semen. Money should not be misused and one should practice Celibacy as much as possible. The ultimate extract of our nourishment is semen and it is dissipated and lost in sex. There are certain nerves in the body that help preserve semen and this in turn protects the body. Therefore, Celibacy should be preserved as much as possible.[38]

Celibacy (Brahmacharya) is the life force of the body (non-self). The ultimate essence of the food we eat and drink is Celibacy. If this essence, Celibacy disappears, then the foundation of the relative self to the Pure Self becomes unstable and loose. And then the exact experience and attainment of the Self becomes very difficult. Therefore, Celibacy is a critical spiritual practice. There is no end to bliss if there is Gnan (Knowledge of the Self) on one side and Celibacy on the other. Then it brings about an unbelievable change. It is because Celibacy is the life force and the essence of the body.[39]

Celibacy should be practiced with understanding. If the fruit of Celibacy is not moksha (Liberation) then,Celibacy is like castration. It will make the body good, strong, and good looking and would live longer. Even a bull becomes strong and healthy.[40]

[edit] The Keys to Practice Celibacy by Dada Bhagwan

• Unflinching determination to practice Celibacy with the support of Dada’s Science. Dada Bhagwan has shown a way to practice Celibacy; one should have the deep inner intent and second the person’s unflinching determination to do so.[41]

• 3 Vision - stops Sexual Vision: Dada Bhagwan’s three vision is exceptional and is a very powerful tool to help conquer Sexual Vision - the first vision is to see him/her without clothes, the second Vision awareness arises when the body is without the Skin and the third Vision is seeing the intestines, the kind the person sees when the stomach is cut open. Visualize the changes that occur within the intestines, see the blood vessels, fecal matter. This will stop sexual impulse arising.[42]

• True Repentance and Introspection to help overcome Sexual Thoughts in Akram Science, this is a practical day to day medicine that helps the person to overcome Sexual thoughts and desires. By doing repentance the person is washing away their thoughts or desires which occurred earlier and that helps further, next time the thoughts become weaker so it’s easier to deal with the situation in front of the person. If the has a thought of Sexuality, if the person throws away the thought within two seconds, then the thought completely disappear.[43]

• The Keys of Celibacy for Married People, This science of Celibacy will liberate anyone, and is applicable to even married people. It is ignorance of the Self that is the obstruction.[44]

• Exclusive Nature Of Celibacy In Akram Science, If the person takes the Knowledge of the Self through the Self Realization process, then to practice Celibacy would be very easy. [45] — Preceding unsigned comment added by Vorajinesh (talk • contribs) 10:15, 22 August 2012 (UTC) Vorajinesh (talk) 10:21, 22 August 2012 (UTC)

Two problems. This is all based on primary sources. And the author's reliablility and usefulness is recognized by no own outside of his small, fringe religious community. Independent mainstream scholars have not discussed this seiously and in depth. It therefore violates both WP:RS and WP:WEIGHT. Dominus Vobisdu (talk) 11:21, 22 August 2012 (UTC)

I changed the definition

The article insisted that celibacy means not being married and insisted that is wasn't about not having sex. It said that not having sex was "chastity." However, that's not what the page on chastity said. This definition of celibacy goes against how the word is used in the rest of the article and how it is used generally. I changed the definition to "not having sex," and included the less common meaning (that is still in dictionaries, though I've never heard the word used that way) at the end of the introduction. A good discussion of celibacy can be found on http://www.answers.com/celibacy/. Another interesting discussion can be found an article that examines how the word celibacy is used: http://asexystuff.blogspot.com/2008/09/what-is-celibacy.html —Preceding unsigned comment added by 130.126.131.113 (talk) 00:27, 9 September 2008 (UTC)

Celibacy is not the same as chastity. To be celibate is to be unmarried. To be chaste is to not have sexual intercourse. (Oxford Universal Dictionary Third Edition: Celibacy - The state of living unmarried. Celibate - Unmarried, single, bound not to marry.) A person can be celibate and still have sex. Lettwoman70

Lettwoman70 is correct. Celibacy refers to ones state in regards to marriage. It does not mean "doesnt't have sex" To my limited knowlege there is no such word in English. The word is associted with that definition because in the Judeo/Christian tradition the married state is the only state in which sexual intercourse is acceptable. Even chastity refers to being true to ones married or unmarried state. Therefore, if one is married one may be said to be chaste if one only has sexual intercourse with one's spouse. I do however recognize that the "no sex" definition may be the more prevalent but this work is supposed to show the facts not what is commonly belived. I changed the definition to reflect this.--Kjrjr (talk) 18:51, 24 April 2009 (UTC)

I absolutely agree and I challenge the person who changed the definition to... 'or not having sex' to find any reference to celibacy meaning 'not having sex' previous to Paris Hilton making the vow in the early 2000s. When Hollywood types like Paris Hilton wanted to make vows against having sex, they mistakenly (or on purpose) used the term for a vow of being unmarried 'celibacy' - because it sounds strange. Had she used the correct term like 'chastity', 'continence' or 'abstinence', she would've been saying 'I'm done being a slut for awhile.' PLEASE let's not have Hollywood morons inform our language! If Paris Hilton had said that she had taken a vow of 'Apocalypse' and other idiots followed her lead - would that be the new definition of Apocalypse? Here is a history of celibacy. You will see that the entire focus is 'marriage' not 'sex'. http://www.christendom-awake.org/pages/mcgovern/celhist1.html

Here's the Encyclopedia Britannica: http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/101371/celibacy

"Celibacy, the state of being unmarried and, therefore, sexually abstinent, usually in association with the role of a religious official or devotee. In its narrow sense, the term is applied only to those for whom the unmarried state is the result of a sacred vow, act of renunciation, or religious conviction. Celibacy has existed in one form or another throughout history and in virtually all the major religions of the world."

Please change it back to the CORRECT definition: 'The state of being unmarried'. — Preceding unsigned comment added by 50.135.82.44 (talk) 18:38, 27 September 2012 (UTC)

Celibacy and sexual abstinence

Refererring to this [2] changement: The same IP has repeatedly changed the reasoned and much more detailed statement that celibacy and sexual abstinence are not the same to the meaning that they are the same. Please note: the former statement has been mutally referenced, amongst others by specialist literature.--Turris Davidica (talk) 15:53, 12 September 2012 (UTC)

For the sake of clarity, "repeatedly" means twice. This is also the number of times my changes have been undone by Turris.

First, what is claimed above is false. I did not write that abstinence and celibacy are the same. I wrote that they are similar, but subtly different, reference two online dictionary sources. Here they are for your consideration:

cel·i·ba·cy [sel-uh-buh-see]

1.abstention from sexual relations.

2.abstention by vow from marriage: the celibacy of priests.

3.the state of being unmarried.

(Dictionary.com)

1: the state of not being married

2a: abstention from sexual intercourse b: abstention by vow from marriage

(Merriam Webster)

As can be easily understood from these two independent sources in agreement, "celibacy" refers either to the state of being unmarried or is defined as a subtype of abstinence.

Second, the use of Gabrielle Brown's book is highly inappropriate. It is an opinion and self-help type book, not a reference for defining words. The phrase referenced is "abstinence is a response on the outside to what's going on, and celibacy is a response from the inside". The definition provided, then is "celibacy is a response from the inside" (inside of what? what kind of response? a response to what?) This definition is inaccurate and false.

I don't know if Turris is attempting to change the definition of celibacy or to sell Gabrielle Brown's book, but this section needs to be fixed. You can't have a reasonable discussion of a word without first defining the word accurately. 75.65.34.19 (talk) 00:40, 8 October 2012 (UTC)

External links

Previously I removed these two links from the article. They were put back in with the request to explain my objections against them:

• How to Practice Celibacy
• Celibacy with Scientific Understanding

See WP:ELYES: What can normally be linked. Number 1 and 2 clearly do not apply. Point 3 says: "Sites that contain neutral and accurate material that is relevant to an encyclopedic understanding of the subject and cannot be integrated into the Wikipedia article ..."
The links that were added are in no way neutral. They reflect a spiritual teacher's point of view. In spite of the name, there is nothing scientific in the second link "Celibacy with Scientific Understanding". These are "just" teachings. I mean, in which peer-reviewed journal has this "scientific understanding" been published?

See also WP:ELNO: Links normally to be avoided. Number 4: Links mainly intended to promote a website. The last week or so, these Dada Bhagwan links have showed up at different places in Wikipedia, and you've probably noticed that I have removed a lot of them. I understand that you probably feel deeply about Dada Bhagwan but Wikipedia is not the place to promote him.
Namaste, Lova Falk talk 13:37, 27 October 2012 (UTC)

Psychological/Evolutionary Explanation?

I think we should cover the psychological and/or evolutionary explanation for this behaviour. I'm sure someone must have covered it.. --IronMaidenRocks (talk) 03:36, 27 June 2013 (UTC)

Information rearrangement

This page, Clerical celibacy, Clerical celibacy (Catholic Church) for example seem to cover somewhat overlapping topics - is there a better way we could divvy up all of this information, leaving only brief mentions of the related articles, with section hatnotes leading to the proper main articles? AdventurousSquirrel (talk) 09:00, 28 January 2014 (UTC)

Merger proposal

I propose that Sexual abstinence and Chastity be merged into this article, and perhaps add a section describing the etymology and varying uses of the three terms. It does not seem that they are sufficiently different to warrant three articles. As per WP:Merging#Reasons for merger, pages should be merged if "There are two or more pages on related subjects that have a large overlap. Wikipedia is not a dictionary; there does not need to be a separate entry for every concept." It's hard to argue that these three concepts don't have a large overlap.

Elizabeth Abbott, a historian of celibacy/abstinence/chastity, writes in her book A History of Celibacy (p. 3),

I also drafted a definition of celibacy that discarded the rigidly pedantic and unhelpful distinctions between celibacy, chastity, and virginity, all of which I used as key words in my research. The fact is that, despite dry, dictionary distinctions, they are, practically, synonymous. (emphasis added)

I agree with this sentiment, except that I think virginity can meaningfully be kept separate.

The reason I think the other two pages should be merged into this one is simply because this one gets more traffic according to this tool. Handcuffed (talk) 22:01, 4 May 2014 (UTC)

• Oppose merging Sexual abstinence into Celibacy article, per reasons stated at Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Involuntary celibacy (2nd nomination) when editors were trying to decide whether or not to merge Involuntary celibacy into this article. As made clear in that WP:AfD debate, and in the Celibacy article, celibacy is far more associated with religious beliefs than sexual abstinence is. Though the terms celibacy and sexual abstinence are often used interchangeably, they are often distinguished as well. When medical sources and similar sources are speaking of sex education and safe sex, the term sexual abstinence, not celibacy, is usually used to indicate the choice to abstain from sexual activity. The Celibacy article is big enough as it is, and the term sexual abstinence is WP:Notable enough in its own right to warrant its own article. Because of how these two terms are often distinguished, celibacy is more so an aspect of sexual abstinence rather than vice versa. These two Wikipedia articles existing is appropriate WP:Content forking. As for the Chastity article: The term chastity is as wrapped up in religious beliefs as the term celibacy is, as indicated by the Chastity article, so it may be fine to merge it into the Celibacy article. But notice that the lead of the Chastity article currently states, "In the Western world, the term has become closely associated (and is often used interchangeably) with sexual abstinence, especially before marriage." So that is also an argument for merging it into the Sexual abstinence article; however, if the term chastity is not as associated with the term sexual abstinence outside of the Western world, it would be a form of WP:Systematic bias to give the Western usage of the term special weight and merge the Chastity article into the Sexual abstinence article. I'm not sure about merging the Chastity article; it's a historical term that came to refer to the chastity of girls and women more than the chastity of boys and men. Flyer22 (talk) 23:01, 4 May 2014 (UTC)
• Oppose. We have enough problem as it is to keep concepts clean. Hafspajen (talk) 23:37, 4 May 2014 (UTC)
• Oppose. Like the two other editors above, addionally: Chastity is not necessarily the same thing as sexual abstinence. At least the concept of the RCC of chastity includes sexual relationships between married couples. There will be a helluba of problems when merging chastity/sexual abstinence/celibacy against that background. And: why? There is enough stuff to write on any of this topics.--Turris Davidica (talk) 08:56, 6 May 2014 (UTC)
• Comment Just because some obscure person at some less known university came up with some results on something that got deleted and unfortunatelly merged here - plus a woman who wrote a book, where she says that she is NOT using the word as the dictionary does, but in a different way. We just simply can't change the encyclopedia and the general common use of those words because of two atypical sources. Hafspajen (talk) 09:49, 6 May 2014 (UTC)

• Oppose merger -- "Sexual abstinence" is a technical term referring to genital activity, while "Chastity" is a traditional moral/religious virtue and state of mind, while "Celibacy" is basically the state of not being married. I fail to see how obscuring these distinctions would give a useful result... AnonMoos (talk) 15:19, 11 May 2014 (UTC)

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Removed the top-of-article tagging, since the merge proposal has clearly failed at this point (as far as the discussions of the last three weeks are concerned). AnonMoos (talk) 09:50, 25 May 2014 (UTC)

• Expand each topic, not merge. The disputed topic seems to be real,and appropriate for an article.Reading over the material at the various locations, I am rather puzzled why it was regarded as fringe in the first place. There seems over the years to have been a consistent effort to remove all serious discussion of less usual forms of sexuality from WP; we seem much more comfortable discussing pornography. It makes an odd mixture. DGG ( talk ) 02:54, 30 May 2014 (UTC)

DGG, the above merger proposal is not about involuntary celibacy. Flyer22 (talk) 16:23, 4 June 2014 (UTC)

Feminism

The feminist group Cell 16, founded in 1968 by Roxanne Dunbar, was known for its program of celibacy and separation from men, among other things. Considered too extreme by many mainstream feminists, the organization acted as a sort of hard left vanguard. It has been cited as the first organization to advance the concept of separatist feminism. In No More Fun and Games, the organization's radical feminist periodical, Cell Members Roxanne Dunbar and Lisa Leghorn advised women to "separate from men who are not consciously working for female liberation"

Moved all this into article Feminism. This is the theoretical foundation for lesbian separatism, and has nothing to do with this article. Stop adding it here. Hafspajen (talk) 13:28, 7 July 2014 (UTC).

Ok, but the article Feminism deleted it. Maranjosie (talk) 13:15, 8 July 2014 (UTC)

Did they? ^Blast. Why? Hafspajen (talk) 13:20, 8 July 2014 (UTC)

The comment by the person who removed it was "Rv recent edits on celibacy as WP:BRD; seems quite UNDUE and FRINGE" 71.175.26.106 (talk) 13:32, 9 July 2014 (UTC)

References

Wikipedia:Deletion review#Involuntary celibacy

Whether or not to recreate the Involuntary celibacy article is up for discussion at WP:Deletion review. Flyer22 (talk) 19:30, 7 December 2014 (UTC)

• SIGH, not AGAIN. Hafspajen (talk) 19:42, 7 December 2014 (UTC)

Requesting permission to restore User:Valoem/Involuntary celibacy to mainspace - another round of AfD

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History

• Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Involuntary celibacy - keep
• Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Involuntary celibacy (2nd nomination) - merge
• Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Denise Donnelly - del
• Wikipedia:Deletion review/Log/2014 December 7 - NC to restore

I've noticed a growing trend on Wikipedia which diverges from our initial goals with a dangerous precedence being set. Our goal is to document the world based on verfiability and notability. It is here that we have the right to document the unusual apart from the usual with a neutral point of view. Mainstream acceptance has never been a requirement, while this social phenomenon is unusual to rare there are enough secondary reliable sources to deem it notable. I feel in many ways the previous close was against consensus. We have the term no consensus for a reason such as this case when there is no consensus. The ensuing dispute only emphasizes the lack of consensus.

Upon reviewing the sources, this topic has been covered both academically and by mainstream media including a documented shooting which the perpetrator directly specified incelism as a motivate. I've added an additional six citations to tokyogirl's version the argument that this lacks notability or is not a social condition simply does not hold. I am requesting that the current version be moved to the mainspace. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 19:57, 15 March 2015 (UTC)

• Administrative note: I've transcluded this nonstandard AFD (in an RFC format) to today's AFD log, in order to receive the maximum amount of community exposure for this nonstandard request. — Coffee // have a cup // beans // 22:33, 15 March 2015 (UTC)

• CommentI doubt I would have chosen this way to do it, but I suppose IAR is enough of a justification. What we need to discuss is the issue DGG ( talk ) 22:45, 15 March 2015 (UTC)

• DGG: Yeah, this was a hard call for myself... but since we're having a discussion about undeleting an article and returning it to the mainspace, I invoked IAR and figured AFD would be the best route. — Coffee // have a cup // beans // 22:50, 15 March 2015 (UTC)

• no restoration the deletion review decision was correctly decided as was the AfD it was discussing. -- TRPoD aka The Red Pen of Doom 23:11, 15 March 2015 (UTC)

There has to be a way of reviewing decisions, even Del Rev. And an RfC at WP does have the advantage that it can essentially do anything. DGG ( talk ) 23:35, 15 March 2015 (UTC)

Although this is notationally true, I would point out that an RfC that lacks consensus cannot do anything; the default is that things remain they way they are (which, in this case, means the article remains deleted.) I'm still marginally side-eying the idea of using an RFC as an end-run around the somewhat stricter standards of DRV; but it is clear at this point that this particular RFC is never going to reach the level of support that would be necessary to restore the article. --Aquillion (talk) 10:07, 17 April 2015 (UTC)

• No restoration. Not having sex is called celibacy, and we already have an article that covers this mainstream, traditional issue. "Incel" does not exist outside the fringiest realms of fringe science, there has been no change in the sourcing attempts in this article over the years. It's the same people, Donnely and Gilmartin (both have had BLPs deleted) ,cited pushing the same fringe. If this closes as no endorsement to restore, I'd like to see at least a 1-year moratorium on recreation and in indefinite topic ban on Valorem. We shouldn't be subjected to the same degree of POV-pushing and advocacy year after year after year. Tarc (talk) 23:41, 15 March 2015 (UTC)

• No restoration. Not having sex for mainly religious reasons is called celibacy. That is why the Celibacy article belongs to the Wikiproject Religion. And PLEASE respect other editors decisions, we had this discussion like in December 2014. Hafspajen (talk) 23:53, 15 March 2015 (UTC)

• - no restoration- Comment I think Coffee's idea to make it an RfC is a good one, as more eyes is good. As far as mainspace, I don't see any improvement on the material discussed when it was nominated for deletion. It is still cobbled-together material written like an essay to give an imaginary condition some form of substance. The fact that someone committed homicide and blamed this, and that people would take that at face value, is alarming. The result was merge but none of the material is mergeable. Hence should not be in mainspace. Cas Liber (talk · contribs) 00:22, 16 March 2015 (UTC)
• No restoration. This is plainly a neologism; I don't see any particular evidence that the sources cited below are talking about the same thing. To the extent that it's worth covering, I would expect it to be initially covered by a subsection of the Celibacy article (which could get its own article if and when it becomes clear that there's enough noteworthy material to support an independent article); but I doubt that it is really noteworthy enough or has sufficient coverage to support even a significant section there. The idea of going straight from no mention on the main Celibacy article to having its own article seems bizarre to me. Beyond that, the appropriate place to take this is DRV, not here; I don't feel that it is at all appropriate to use a RFC to try and restore an article that has received such extensive discussion in the past. --Aquillion (talk) 07:27, 26 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment, @Tarc: I have been nothing but civil throughout this debate. I was never involved any prior debates regarding this topic except the last DRV. This encyclopedia is founded on debate and discussion. To suggest a 1 year topic ban because I civilly requested further discussion on a subject (a second time) is nothing short of the thought policing we built this encyclopedia to destroy. What I do is what we should all do, surf through topics and subjects deemed notable and create or restore them. This is how we expand this encyclopedia, and was how we built Wikipedia. I have a history of challenging consensus, UFO sightings in outer space, Dieselpunk, Justin Knapp, and The Halal Guys. Upon reviewing the sources in this article, I see the same prejudice to concepts we are unfamiliar with. Web MD and others show the undeniable notability of this subject and show it is distinct from celibacy. Though the term is an oxymoron, to say that it makes the concept null is absurd. We document what is notable not accepted:

• Olson, Carl (2007). Celibacy and Religious Traditions. Oxford University Press. p. 127. ISBN 9780198041818.
• Donnelly, Denise; Burgess, Elisabeth ; Anderson, Sally ; Davis, Regina ; Dillard, Joy (2001). "Involuntary Celibacy: A Life Course Analysis". The Journal of Sex Research 38 (2): 159–169. Retrieved 19 May 2014.
• Hawes, Joseph M. (2002). The Family in America: An Encyclopedia, Volume 2. ABC-CLIO. pp. 131–132. ISBN 9781576072325.
• O'Brien (editor), Jodi (2008). Encyclopedia of Gender and Society, Volume 1. SAGE. p. 120. ISBN 1412909163.
• Lehmiller, Justin J. (2014). The Psychology of Human Sexuality. Wiley-Blackwell. p. 232. ISBN 1118351215.
• Dirk van Zyl Smit, Sonja Snacken (2009). Principles of European Prison Law and Policy: Penology and Human Rights. Oxford University Press. p. xliii. ISBN 9780191018824.
• Vines, Matthew (2014). God and the Gay Christian. Convergent Books. ISBN 9781601425171.
• Hinsch, Bret (2013). Masculinities in Chinese History. Rowman & Littlefield. p. 126. ISBN 1442222336.

It is clear this subject has notability I am seeing significant coverage from multiple reliable sources. Published works subject to editorial review is notable, Web MD is notable. There are 15 other sources in the article subject to both peer and editorial review. Prior debates all deletes are revolved around WP:IDONTLIKEIT or WP:I HAVENTHEARDOFIT. If this subject is not notable I need an explanation as to why. Please breakdown each individual source and compare it to the sources found in celibacy. We do document the unusual, it is as simple as that. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 01:20, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Same squeezing-blood-from-a-stone that one sees from partisans all this time in this project; name-drops, unreliable sources, aspects that are already addressed, and so on. That's the part you keep whiffing on; sex abstention is a long-documented and much-discussed thing, but it is a choice one makes. What is fringe and non-notable here is the pseudo-scientific view that there's an "involuntary" aspect to it. Tarc (talk) 01:33, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

How are they unreliable, that seems to be the trend when dealing with topics considered unusual. First claim the source is fringe (which in this case it is not) and then claiming sources are unreliable without divulging into why. We are looking at published sources subject to editorial oversight. By your definition nothing is reliable and one can always use that argument. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 01:41, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• Valoem left a message on my talk page about this discussion. I would certainly have seen this discussion and participated, even without that note.

  I revised my position on this several times during the DRV. On reviewing what was said there, I'm still of the view that there's an encyclopaedic article to be written here, based on Tokyogirl's draft, but I think the article should be called "Sexual inactivity". I'm now persuaded that we should not have an article called "Involuntary celibacy".—S Marshall T/C 02:00, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

While I'm inherently dubious about this as an encyclopedic subject, there do seem to be sufficient references to justify it... that some men are driven to violence as a result of mental problems due to a lack of an outlet for their sexual urges seems well supported, even though distasteful. It is (from my understanding) fairly well known that a lack of 'sexual outlets' can cause psychological issues, even if the text as it stands it not particularly descriptive of the issue. That the subject in and of itself seems misogynist is not a reason for exclusion... that the lack of sexual relations with women can cause psychological problems for men is a legitimate topic, and the article can be improved through the normal editing process. Revent^talk 02:18, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• Restore tho I am not quite sure of the title, or whether we might not need several articles. As was earlier mentioned, "Not having sex for mainly religious reasons is called celibacy." -- but that's actually a reason for keeping this, because there are other reasons for celibacy than that, and the referenced content in the article shows it. I think it absurd to ask for a topic ban for something that has been patiently worked on undisruptively despite opposition, which might conceivably appear to be represent a show of prejudice against the topic. If so, policy would be to disregard !votes that appear to have such a basis. But in the circumstances it was perfectly reasonable to ask if there was any support for it before going ahead yet again--it shows prudence, not canvassing. DGG ( talk ) 04:27, 16 March 2015 (UTC)
• Do not restore to mainspace - this issue has been discussed to death, and time and time again the result has been "delete". Even the initial result of 'merge' was a de facto deletion because the editors of the article it was supposed to be merged with (Celibacy) did not want the material to be added. Therein lies the whole problem: even the name, "involuntary celibacy", is an oxymoron as celibacy is a voluntary condition by definition. The name originates from internet forums and is associated with the (now deleted) fictional condition of "Loveshyness". All this is very shady, and very much a fringe theory to my knowledge. The whole concept of there being some sort of condition preventing men from having sex, is ridiculous and close to a conspiracy theory. One of the arguments for the editor who wishes to re-instate the article is that Elliot Rodger, the perpetrator of the Isla Vista shootings of 2014, believed in the condition and that him believing in the condition of "incel" was mentioned in several news articles. To me, this is not sufficient grounds for an article and I think it's time to give it a rest and respect the outcome of the previous deletion and request of undeletion. Mythic Writerlord (talk) 07:59, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

that the merge was in fact a deletion (as you admit yourself), was improper--that's not what merge means, and doing deletion under the pretense of a merge is one of the indications of possible prejudice against the article topic. DGG ( talk ) 20:54, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Not at all, DGG. The topic was deemed unfit to have it's own standalone article, so the result was merge and keep as a section of the celibacy article. Editors of the celibacy article overwhelmingly agreed the content did not fit in the page, discussed the matter extensively, got moderators involved and asked for other people's opinions. It was then decided to remove the information from the celibacy article. Then someone created an article for Denise Donnelly, as a way of keeping a mention of "incel" on Wikipedia. The article was marked for deletion, and consensus was it should be deleted. A subsequent deletion review also ended without a majority supporting recreation, and the previous deletions were not deemed improper. Making this attempt number four. As I said back in December, I would not oppose to a compromise, provided it is a reasonable and workable compromise that both the supporters and opposing views can agree on. Call me optimistic if you will, but I think a lot of the problems people have with the article is based on its name. An article titled sexual inactivity (covering both voluntary and involuntary sexual inactivity), or perhaps a mention at sexual frustration (which is exactly the same thing as "incel") would also suffice. A lot of the sources used to justify an "involuntary celibacy" article do not specifically mention the term involuntary celibacy, and the same can be said for many potential sources mentioning the phenomenon of not having sex (while wanting to). I'm sure this gives us some leeway with how to name the article. Once we can agree on a reasonable title, I think that would really smoothe out the process for @Valoem. Mythic Writerlord (talk) 12:32, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

Your assertion that celibacy is always "a voluntary condition by definition" is wrong. The main (and before the late 20th century, the only definition) is "the state of not being married". Webster's Practical Illustrated Dictionary of 1943 lists only one definition: "celibate state; single life". No marriage == celibate, according to those dictionaries. You might be used to people using them differently (you might also be used to people thinking that alright is a single word), but that doesn't remove the importance of marriage in the primary definitions. WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:32, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• KEEP This book seems to suggest that involuntary celibacy has been the subject of significant academic research. The Telegraph suggests the phrase "involuntary celibacy" has become a part of the internet vernacular. This book and this book both have an entire chapter devoted specifically to involuntary celibacy. There is a large body of high quality source material and I have not seen any arguments as to why we wouldn't create a space for the information contained in these sources. Regarding Celibacy, it seems to have much too heavy a focus on religion and involuntary celibacy should be on that article as well, probably using Summary Style. Webster's definition of celibacy doesn't even mention religion and the Free Dictionary only mentions it under one of the two possible definitions.[3] CorporateM (Talk) 16:47, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment' - CorporateM - the sentence involuntary celibacy does occur outside marriage ... is just a pure logical mess . Or you live in celibacy - and then do not have any sex, or you are married - and that is NOT celibacy per definition. Also Donnelly is not a professor, that book is not serious. Your first reference. Just look at [this history]. Blocked User :Candleabracadabra created this page as a pure disruption. Hafspajen (talk) 18:52, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment - And about that note in the The Telegraph: Last week, 18-year-old Ben Moynihan was found guilty of attempting to stab three women to death in Portsmouth over the summer of 2014. During the spree, Moynihan taunted police with a series of bizarre notes that blamed his actions on his inability to lose his virginity. Women were "fussy", he said, adding that he'd "[grown] up to believe them as a more weaker part of the human breed". Just in case you were about to mistake him for a misunderstood romantic, he helpfully added: "All women need to die and hopefully next time I can gouge their eyes out." '- Wow, great. He is suffering from incel (Involuntary celibacy)? Also The Telegraph doesn't mention it as a widespread use, but in dank corners of the internet and it does not mention it as a term but something cited or as a citation: (as [so called by them] 'involuntary celibacy' ) - just check source. In these dank corners of the internet, a whole language has developed for 'beta males' to bemoan their 'involuntary celibacy' and discuss techniques used by Pick Up Artists (remember Julien Blanc?) to attract the opposite sex. - This is how is mentioned in The Telegraph. I am praying already for all those woman not to walk in into these traps. Hafspajen (talk) 19:48, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• ? What policy are you invoking here? How does this deny the notability of the subject? Valoem ^{talk contrib} 21:09, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Denise Donnelly, a Georgia State University associate professor of sociology, and how might I ask does this make the subject not notable? Also the current version being discussed is not that version posted by Candleabracadabra. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 19:02, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• (edit conflict) - There is no other notable or widespread academic use of this term outside Denise Donnelly's own works or this Incel blog... Also I might regret this what I am going to say - but - I sincerely suspect she is part of this Incel blogg, and in that case it is no independent research. I also hope that this is not any of her own try to get this idea into Wikipedia to reach a bigger range for her ideas. Hafspajen (talk) 19:25, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• Weakly in favor of moving to article space under another name - Sorry, but the inherent contradiction in "involuntary celibacy" seems to me to be more dubiously notable than the subject of "involuntary abstinence" which seems to me to be a much more neutral and very likely less trendy title. Sexual abstinence seems to me to be both a much less problematic related term, and on that basis I think "Involuntary abstinence" is a more acceptable title as it is less problematic in terms of actual linguistic meaning of the words, less RECENTist, and probably overall a better fit with COMMONNAME. John Carter (talk) 19:23, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

My issue with this is that sources certainly state the condition is Involuntary celibacy, this would contradict common names, would it not? Valoem ^{talk contrib} 19:34, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Urban Dictionary has pretty similar definitions for both terms.[4][5] and both terms seem to have plenty of source material.[6][7]. Each term seems to carry slightly different connotations. I think either term would be fine, with a redirect and a section documenting the debate about definition. CorporateM (Talk) 21:00, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• Were you joking about Urban dictionary in this serious discussion? The definitions on there are vile and insulting. --Rent A Troop (talk) 22:22, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• As I said at the previous discussions that this thing has NOTHING TO DO with real celibacy. Celibacy is religious. This is a kind of sexual frustration - and I offered as a solution this many times as a workable compromise -to add it there - but Valoem and the other re-creators doesn't and didn't want or wanted to hear about this compromise. Overall no compromise at all. Sexual frustration is frustration caused by a discrepancy between one's desired and achieved sexual activity. Of all above explanations that is exactly what the incel is. Sexual frustration is an article that has two lines, by the way. If incel would find its way to this article, added as the term incel means this and that but it is not celibacy only called celibacy - in the word strict meaning, but ... this and that. I said all the time that it should be added there but nobody will listen, but instead try to reinforce its connections with real celibacy -and in this case it becomes a fringe theory. But it is perfectly acceptable to add it to sexual frustration I strongly encourage that solution, as I actually always did, and still do as an emergency solution. Hafspajen (talk) 01:12, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

BUT - as the article is written now: Involuntary celibacy or incel (also sometimes referred to as "love shyness" or being "love shy"[1]) is a term used to describe individuals who are routinely celibate for involuntary reasons as opposed to doing so voluntarily.[2][3] Well this to start with - is wrong. The very description of the first line is already not encyclopedic because it serves this as a regular definition. And celibacy is voluntarily. The article will set up a totally different definition. And people of course will say ; nooo, celibacy that is not what it is defined in the Oxford dictionary , cos I read that on Wikipedia, they say something different. And I guess that is exactly the meaning with this crusade. Than it continues The term has gained popularity in recent years - that's one bit that is OK - and goes on but has been utilized in the past by persons such as Theodore Parker and Swiss Reformed theologian Karl Barth, as it applied to unmarried persons and Christianity. -Well, I doubt the part about Karl Barth. He was talking about Paul the Apostle in the cited part. Hafspajen (talk) 01:26, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

Celibacy is not necessarily "voluntary" if you're looking at the primary definitions of the term in actual dictionaries. WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:32, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

Bullshit. "Involuntary celibacy" is an oxymoron, and this is the firs time I ever whote bullshit on Wikipedia and I feel this is the time I really need to say so. Hafspajen (talk) 02:14, 22 March 2015 (UTC)

Arbitrary break

• Comment Is "Involuntary celibacy" some buzzwords or jargon used just to label a potential condition or is it officially being used as a diagnosis or etc? It is a risk of turning Wikipedia into a statement instead of a summary collection of documents if this is all hearsay or a collection of observations for now. I took a look at the page's references and they seem to be a collection of personal views or make trivial mentions of Involuntary celibacy without elaborating what it exactly is. Other references seem to speculate what it is and number 6, 18 requires a log-in in order to view the source. However prison would impose involuntary celibacy as highlighted in source number 10. Source number 13 I think needs to be removed because being castrated was a condition for accepting the job as a eunuch. Source number 19 is small mention on allegations and speculation of Involuntary celibacy. Source number 21 is the Washington Post reporting or relaying what Elliot Rodger labeled himself as a alleged involuntary virgin. Along with source 22 as another allegation of his "incel". Source number 23 is reporting on supposed "incels" on a forum related to Elliot Rodger which the forum PUAhate no longer exist. Source 24 is just reporting on Elliot Rodger and only make a small mention of Involuntary celibacy. I think source 19, 21, 22, 23(possibly 24) also need to be removed. The sources that stood out to me as describing Involuntary celibacy would be 2, 3, 6, 7, 10, 17. I'm beginning to lean towards a deletion or merger of the article now after checking out the sources on the subject. --Rent A Troop (talk) 19:43, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• Rent A Troop - "Involuntary celibacy" is some kind of buzzwords or jargon used just to label a potential condition and it is not officially being used as a diagnosis. Hafspajen (talk) 20:41, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Who altered my comment? I was asking a question at the beginning and it has been removed. The question wasn't directed at a single person --Rent A Troop (talk) 22:07, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

@Rent A Troop: How did you come up with merger or deletion. The guidelines established by GNG would suggest that even those sources would be enough to demonstrate notability and allow a separate article. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 20:29, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

As you say it is suggested, but Wikipedia:Notability also mentions, "This is not a guarantee that a topic will necessarily be handled as a separate, stand-alone page." There is also this section, "No subject is automatically or inherently notable merely because it exists: The evidence must show the topic has gained significant independent coverage or recognition, and that this was not a mere short-term interest, nor a result of promotional activity or indiscriminate publicity, nor is the topic unsuitable for any other reason. Sources of evidence include recognized peer reviewed publications, credible and authoritative books, reputable media sources, and other reliable sources generally." WP:NRV. "We require "significant coverage" in reliable sources so that we can actually write a whole article, rather than half a paragraph or a definition of that topic. If only a few sentences could be written and supported by sources about the subject, that subject does not qualify for a separate page, but should instead be merged into an article about a larger topic or relevant list." WP:WHYN. I also think allowing this page to be restored would be borderline WP:NOTNEWS, but I'm not entirely sure on that part yet. --Rent A Troop (talk) 22:07, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment - To be clear, I saw this discussion here highlighted here recently. I take no position on the question asked here in this RfC, and I have not been a fan of Wikipedia's DRV process at all for some time now. However, this RfC appears to be trying to circumvent DRV though, which I'm sure has its own process(es) for review (?), and should not, IMHO, be circumvented. Might things need changing at DRV (with a lot of "new blood" to start out with)? Sure, but this isn't the way to start that kind of process. No Wikipedia article is so critical that it can be used to circumvent Wikipedia's established processes. Really people...nothing good can come from an RfC like this. Guy1890 (talk) 03:20, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

Err, maybe it can be moved or piped to the DRV location? Cas Liber (talk · contribs) 04:08, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

• Perhaps a DRV would be better, as it stands the content in this article is notable. Review WP:GNG shows this passes each and every requirement. Denise Donnelly also passes WP:PROF two closes should reflect the lack of consensus on this topics, not deletion. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 09:39, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

No it's not notable. The impact is on people's psychological health, hence needs some consensus-type references indicating that it acually exists...which it doesn't have. Cas Liber (talk · contribs) 10:57, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

This not the requirements set by WP:GNG, to suggest that this must be an accepted medical condition and to apply WP:MEDRS is wrong, social conditions are notable the sources are more than acceptable and define this as a social condition. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 12:36, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

The problem is, there may be a nugget of viability here in discussing a medical or social condition, but it has been warped and co-oped by the fringe nuttery of this "love shyness" bullshit. THAT is the true fringe here, the people who have been trying for several years to advance their agenda by using the Wikipedia as a PR vehicle. Tarc (talk) 12:50, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

• Rename and restore The word "celibacy" has a certain meaning which is more loaded with implication than the content of this article is trying to express. The title should be deconstructed so as not to coin a WP:NEOLOGISM and reflect the sources which discuss this concept without using this term. In my opinion, the major barrier here is a troublesome title and a lack of definition and differentiation of this concept versus similar concepts. I oppose restoring this article without a name change from the use of celibacy because in my opinion, that word is the source of most trouble and that trouble will not go away without ceasing to use that word. Blue Rasberry (talk) 14:25, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment - To be clear, I agree with what Bluerasberry said above. The word "celibacy" has a certain meaning which is more loaded with implication than the content of this article is trying to express. If the article shall ever be written that it should be going something like :

1) The word Incel is a neologism coined by a blog site supporting young men with difficulties .... etc, etc.

2) It should pass on the historical references. Anyone who studied some history of ideas would react to that, because it is wrong.

3) Should also contain a reference to the celibacy's true (Encyclopedic) definition.

4) All this done, then start developing the issue according to the incel- community, but still staying stricly NPOV.

5) (Preferably - but not necessarily) could be added to sexual frustration, considering that the article sexual frustration is only two lines, and it is the very same topic. Not to celibacy though. Hafspajen (talk) 14:42, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

:@Blue Rasberry: Do you have any suggestions what the new name should be?--Rent A Troop (talk) 16:40, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

@Blue Rasberry: I'll skip over the questioning and get to the point. You're saying the article has a problem with the title because its a coined phrase and violates the WP:NEOLOGISM. So you want the original title removed and have Wikipedia create new phrase to label it. That process doesn't make any sense. --Rent A Troop (talk) 16:57, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

If we rename this it would be pure WP:NEO, there are more sources out there than just this blog. Sexual frustration is not involuntary celibacy, the two are separate conditions one can be sexually active and still frustrated, Incel defines a very specific condition which each source suggests is separate. I believe some parts of the article is sexual inactivity, the other belongs strictly to involuntary celibacy. We have to start somewhere. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 19:28, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

Valoem Rent A Troop WP:NEO is a policy about making new terms. As I understand, "Involuntary celibacy" is a neologism because it is purported to be a technical term with a certain meaning which is not obvious by the words themselves (so it is jargon), but it also is not used in most of the sources cited. The sources cited are describing one concept, but the problem is that many sources give this concept a different name. Per WP:NEO, Wikipedia should not apply a single term to the concept when so many terms are used. However, there can still be a Wikipedia article on the concept. WP:N does not require that a concept has one accepted term to describe it. If a concept appears in WP:RS, even if that concept is named by many terms, then it can have an article.

I oppose restoring this article without a rename. The term "involuntary celibacy" is too contentious and much too much of a distraction, especially since that term is not used by most of the sources cited. Blue Rasberry (talk) 14:08, 18 March 2015 (UTC)

• Bluerasberry : I see what you mean now. "In a few cases, there will be notable topics which are well-documented in reliable sources, but for which no accepted short-hand term exists. It can be tempting to employ a neologism in such a case. Instead, it is preferable to use a title that is a descriptive phrase in plain English if possible, even if this makes for a somewhat long or awkward title." I still think the author of the page has a source problem. It could be titled "Denial of Sexual Relations" as one possible suggested title, but I don't think that would be all encompassing of the subject --Rent A Troop (talk) 04:42, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• restore-it seems like an important topic/article--Ozzie10aaaa (talk) 16:36, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

I've held back on this for awhile to see how it would develop. But now that I've had time to look into it properly, I'm not seeing anything in this assortment of feeble sources that would justify reversing the results of earlier discussions. Wikipedia operates by consensus, and sooner or later if you're on the wrong side of that consensus you need to accept that reality and move on. You shouldn't get to endlessly rehash the same discussion again and again every couple of months in the hope that people won't notice and your preferred change will make it through by stealth. So, take no action, I guess. Lankiveil ^{(speak to me)} 11:44, 18 March 2015 (UTC).

• Restore. I feel that we need to write Wikipedia for our readers, not ourselves. I don't see it as far-fetched that someone might come here and type 'incel' into the search box. Right now, when they do, they get a page about an ovarian cancer drug, which is almost certainly not what they were actually looking for. Obviously keeping the article nutjobbery-free is going to be a challenge, but we've handled worse before. HiDrNick! 13:00, 18 March 2015 (UTC)

It is already a problem, when someone shoots people and cites involuntary celibacy as a reason. If it is not abiding by MEDRS then material like that can stand despite being so obviously problematic. Cas Liber (talk · contribs) 01:07, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment - The funny part is that I agree, I feel that we need to write Wikipedia for our readers, not ourselves. But we can't write things in an irresponsible way. There are content issues here. Hafspajen (talk) 20:55, 18 March 2015 (UTC)

But don't we hash out content issues on article talk pages? There's no deadline - articles don't need to be perfect to appear in main space. HiDrNick! 21:12, 18 March 2015 (UTC)

If you didn't read the arguments please read them yet. There are plenty. Also it is a strong suspicion of WP:NEO, that made many editors to vote against, now and before. I don't have anything against the editor personally at all, but I do care for not going out in mainspace with definitions that are not crystal clear. It is much about the Articles on neologisms are commonly deleted, as these articles are often created in an attempt to use Wikipedia to increase usage of the term. ... As Wiktionary's inclusion criteria differ from Wikipedia's, that project may cover neologisms that Wikipedia cannot accept. You may wish to contribute an entry for the neologism to Wiktionary instead. - As user Tarc noted there is a possible suspicion of people trying to advance their agenda by using the Wikipedia as a PR vehicle and maybe a possible Wikipedia:Conflict of interest too. Even if not, still it is a subject that is rather ... not based on a broad coverage as it should be to cover the intention of the article. Also, several compromises were offered but rejected, and this makes it even more into a possibility that it was meant to promote the term. As we said again and again, the article sexual frustration is only two line, and we have pointed out that if somebody is interested in writing about this kind of topics there is an article, underdeveloped and has the same kind of topic; it is describing about the same thing. Hafspajen (talk) 23:36, 18 March 2015 (UTC)

I have no doubt that sexual frustration needs immediately and massive expansion, but how does that issue make involuntary celibacy non-notable. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 16:04, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

The sources provided give an in depth determination that this is not WP:NEO. If Tarc's note does have any truth please look through the editors history to make that determination. As an uninvolved editor (historically I've had no connection until the last DRV) I find such accusations in conflict with the good faith we preach. We are all trying to establish articles based on guidelines. I have not seen one against its inclusion hold any weight. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 00:52, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

I said possibly. I said even if not ... but sometimes I find people want me not to think at all, because of AGF. I don't find that the sources provided give a real in depth determination that this is not WP:NEO. Have tried to think about the compromise thing instead? Hafspajen (talk) 01:14, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment - Since it looks like people might have a hazy idea about the definition of celibacy, I copy over the definition, so we all know what we are talking about (^{it is the state of being unmarried - used in the sense of complete abstinence from marriage; generally for religious resons}...):

• Here we have the Encyclopedia Britannica:

<blockquote>Celibacy, the state of being unmarried and, therefore, sexually abstinent, usually in association with the role of a religious official or devotee. In its narrow sense, the term is applied only to those for whom the unmarried state is the result of a sacred vow, act of renunciation, or religious conviction. Celibacy has existed in one form or another throughout history and in virtually all the major religions of the world.</blockquote>

• Britannica Concise Encyclopedia ', the deliberate abstinence from sexual activity, usually in connection with a religious role or practice. Britannica Concise Encyclopedia - page 359 Hafspajen (talk) 03:25, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• The Oxford Dictionary is formulating it as: The state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations. To abstain is defined as: Restrain oneself from doing or enjoying something.

• Children's ... - Britannica is even more outspoken: A voluntary refusal to marry or engage in sexual intercourse, celibacy is often associated with taking religious vows. The three types of religious celibacy are sacerdotal, monastic, and institutional. That is a definition. Hafspajen (talk) 03:18, 19 March 2015 (UTC:
• The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fifth Edition. Copyright © 2011 by defines it as:

1. Abstinence from sexual relations.

2. The condition of remaining unmarried, especially for religious reasons.

• The Random House Kernerman Webster's College Dictionary, © 2010 K Dictionaries Ltd. Copyright 2005, 1997, 1991 by Random House, Inc. defines it as

1. abstention from sexual relations.

2. abstention by vow from marriage.

3. the state of being unmarried.

Hafspajen (talk) 03:43, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

This only confirms that celibacy and involuntary celibacy are not the same and needs separate articles. By this definition terms that are oxymorons such as Dark light or Black White have no place on this encyclopedia. The term used to define this condition just so happens to be an oxymoron, but that does not make it any less notable. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 16:04, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Yes, Valoem. Hafspajen (talk) 02:57, 22 March 2015 (UTC)

"involuntary celibacy" is a minor, non-notable neologism, is the point of all this. If "sexual frustration" is truly a notable medical subject, then expand that article. "Incel" and "involuntary celibacy" are terms that do not belong anywhere on an encyclopedia. Tarc (talk) 16:20, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

According to you, but not according to the GNG policy established on this encyclopedia. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 16:28, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• OK, here we go again. Why can't this topic be added to sexual frustration, may I ask? Because it isn't sexual frustration? Cos celibacy - it isn't. Actually it is only 1 editor who doesn't like this idea - Valoem. What's the point? What's the agenda? Hafspajen (talk) 16:40, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

No, one can be sexually active and still frustrated the term is liberal in that sense, but I would be okay with a move to the term Sexual inactivity with a subsection on this particular topic. It has more correlation. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 17:18, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

Yes, according to the GNG guideline, no policy, it is a non-notable neologism. Tarc (talk) 16:53, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Facepalm Why Sexual inactivity, a non existing article - when this is an article on Sexual frustration? And according to the cited sources it is not simply inactivity, but is a situation that these people are involved involuntarily? We are straying away again somewhere into an undefined territory again. Check definition Frustration. Hafspajen (talk) 17:23, 19 March 2015 (UTC) ^{Tarc may I borough this from thou, we are going round and round in circles.}

• Why the facepalm? We are not going in circles I am disagreeing that sexual frustration is a suitable merge for reasons I clearly stated above. Involuntary celibacy is due to inactivity and defined as such by a few sources, frustration encompasses much more than that. Sure maybe a few sentences there is good, but we uses sources to determine if the subject is independent of sexual frustration and also independently notable. They certainly suggest so. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 20:23, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Because, my dear friend Sexual inactivity if we start writing that article in a serious way, a state of being where one obstains from, whether volunarily or not, sex. It might has also to do with Asexuality, anoestrus and even fertility and even Menopause and [Sterility. And the part not possible to be sexually active and still frustrated true, but - sexual frustration doesnt only mean sexually active and frustrated .. it can mean frustrated because not sexually active... Cry. WP:CIR. Hafspajen (talk) 21:29, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

Like I stated at Wikipedia:Deletion review/Log/2014 December 7, "Creating a Sexual inactivity or an Involuntary sexual abstinence article just to cover involuntary celibacy would be needless WP:Content forking. As was already pointed out at the Celibacy talk page, we have enough articles about sexual inactivity, voluntary or otherwise. These articles (including the Asexuality article) refer to one another, and to have another article doing the same is overkill. If the involuntary celibacy topic is not to have its own Wikipedia article, but is sourced well enough to be covered on Wikipedia, it should go in one of the existing articles about sexual inactivity. The Sexual abstinence article is about voluntary and involuntary sexual abstinence. So, yes, an Involuntary sexual abstinence article would be a violation of WP:Content fork. But it is a valid point that we should stick to the terminology that the sources use for the topic. If the sources don't refer to involuntary celibacy as a form of sexual abstinence, then placing it in an article called Sexual abstinence can be considered a violation of the WP:Synthesis policy." Flyer22 (talk) 21:37, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment - You guys do whatever you want, I have reached my limits of being able to discuss this politely, my next edit might be something I might regret. How many times are you supposed to start a thing all over again? We had a discussion like a year ago, opposing the merger of an article, and now it started all over again, at article Celibacy - starting adding involuntary celibacy New Age definitions like New Celibacy, New Love and New Sexuality and other deviant definitions from some book writen by someone who clearly stated my own definition is not from the dictionary. I precisely succeded to convince Vaoem that Involuntary celibacy can be different celibacy, when somebody else starts this discussion merging it again with celibacy... We had this discussion with Flyer22, Casliber, Tarc, Mythic Writerlord and User:Turris Davidica for ages, it feels like it. Hafspajen (talk) 13:54, 24 March 2015 (UTC)

On top of it a parallel discussion with this discussion Talk:Celibacy about suddenly merging -Involuntarely celibacy (the very same subject) into Celibacy again. ... Twin solutions suggested in the same time? Both going against previous consensus? Is this a technique meant to let everybody drop down by pure exhaustion until nobody ever cares any more so they later can just walk in add what it was opposed and discussed rather till absurdity until everybody just doesn't care any more? It is not a discussion but a case of Wikipedia:Do not disrupt Wikipedia to illustrate a point. I don't know how Wiki functions any more, but it is a seriously twisted discussion, allowed all over again and again and again and again and again and again again and again and again and again and again and again - and I sincerely don't care any more. Let Wikipedia be used to spread whatever it suits anyone. Nobody else cares either. I have other things to do, that I might get paid for in the future, too. This discussion any any other new discussions in future looking like this is just a major waste of time. Wish Coffee and Drmies should never had allowed this. Thought that Wikipedia processes were not about how to exhaust everybody else and than take home the game by bringing up the same subject ten times a year, but was constructed in a somewhat different way. Not the please let me have just an another round of AfD - style. Previous consensus and all the editors opinions of course is not worth a sheer shit. Well, sorry, told you ... I am out of here. Hafspajen (talk) 22:04, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

Valoem, the notability process looks something like this:

Step #1: Decide whether the subject gets its own standalone article. In this case, the answer seems to be "no". (Re-read the lead paragraph at WP:N that begins "This is not a guarantee..." for the relevant "rule".)

Step #2: Following the advice at WP:FAILN guideline, specifically "Non-notable topics with closely related notable articles or lists are often merged into those pages", figure out if there is a "closely related notable article".

Options: This subject has several possible candidates. Given a subject that can be described as "unhappy because he can't get married and/or otherwise find a (voluntary) sexual partner", you could reasonably focus on the "unhappy" part, on the "not married" part, or on the "no sex" part.

In this discussion, different editors have different ideas about the most important focus.

• If you focus on the "unhappy" part, then the obvious merge candidate is Sexual frustration.
• If you focus on the "not married" part, then the obvious merge candidate is Celibacy.
• If you focus on the "no sex" part, then the obvious merge candidate is an article like Sexual inactivity.

None of these are perfect, and nobody's "wrong" for preferring one over the other. The choice just shows what each person believes is the most important or most unique aspect of the concept. (As a tactical measure, if you really want to see incel mentioned in the mainspace, I'd suggest that you cling to any suggestion for a place to mention it at all, even if you think it isn't the ideal solution.) WhatamIdoing (talk) 04:00, 20 March 2015 (UTC)

WhatamIdoing, regarding those merge candidates, I don't see why the focus has to be one or the other. As you no doubt know, sexual frustration can be due to any number of reasons, including marital aspects; so the Sexual frustration article can validly address the no sex, the unhappy, and the not-married aspects. The same goes for the Sexual abstinence article, which already addresses different reasons for not engaging in sexual activity, including the involuntary factor that is noted in the lead. And as for the Celibacy article, like others, I don't see why involuntary celibacy cannot be covered in that article. If alternative definitions of a term are significant enough, we are supposed to cover those different definitions in one article; we ideally should not create a separate article just to cover each definition of the term. And like you noted in the Canvassing section below, celibacy is not always voluntary. Nor does its definition always focus on marriage. All the fuss over this involuntary celibacy topic escapes me. As you know, I've been involved with various contentious sexual topics over the years at Wikipedia; I never thought this would be one of them. And the application of WP:MEDRS to non-medical aspects is silly. As anyone can see, the topic is not completely or even mostly medical. Flyer22 (talk) 04:24, 20 March 2015 (UTC)

The focus has to be one or the other because of a technical limitation: a page title can only be redirected to one page. However, there is no requirement that all mention of the idea be limited to one article. The subject could be mentioned (briefly) in each of them. WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:42, 21 March 2015 (UTC)

When I stated, "I don't see why the focus has to be one or the other," I was not speaking of a WP:Alternative title matter, or simply of article titles. But while we're back on the subject of titles, you stated, "If you focus on the 'no sex' part, then the obvious merge candidate is an article like Sexual inactivity." I don't see that as the case. If it's a "no sex" matter, then, in this case, the text would fit fine in the Sexual frustration article. In my "21:37, 19 March 2015 (UTC)" post above, I stated that a Sexual inactivity article is not needed; I stand by that. I was/am stating that while "no sex" is the main focus of sexual frustration, sexual frustration can be due to any number of reasons, and that it's much the same for sexual abstinence; sexual frustration and sexual abstinence can be due to one or more reasons. I therefore do not see why involuntary celibacy has to focus on the sex, the unhappiness, or the not-married aspects (especially since marriage and sexual activity usually come hand in hand); depending on the context, the focus can be on any of those three aspects, whether the content is in the Celibacy article, the Sexual frustration article or the Sexual abstinence article. And involuntary celibacy is not simply about the unhappiness anyway. Flyer22 (talk) 02:13, 21 March 2015 (UTC)

Canvassing

• Note to admins - Valoem has left messages for 5 editors about this RfC, 4 of whom have opined in favor of the subject matter; Edison (voted keep in AfD 1 & 2), Mangoe (keep in AfD #2), Tokyogirl (worked extensively on draftspace restorations), S. Marshall (permit recreation in DRV). This appears to be a pretty bald-faced violation of WP:CANVASS' vote-stacking prohibitions. Tarc (talk) 01:51, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

The editors I asked are editors who were previously involved which is allowed per WP:CANVASS not to mention every other editor here was involved in previous debates favoring the deletion side. This is not canvassing, but a request for comment and in this case there needs to be a balance. To jump to every possible option to nullify any arguments I have shows your inherent bias against this topic. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 02:01, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Either you're not reading or not understanding; the only editors you contacted were those who voted in your favor in the past. That is not permissible, per the link provided. Tarc (talk) 12:30, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

If you look at the discussion, you will notice a natural canvass of all previous editors involved in the discussion. To ignore that two people pinged here was DGG and @Jimbo Wales: is hardly acting with neutrality. It is uncomfortable to me, that an article so well sourced does not have a place on this encyclopedia. By this standard anything not accepted by the mainstream can be deleted which is counter intuitive to NPOV we are trying to create. As per DGG this is a circumstance which views much be balanced I've asked editors with an extensive history of being fair and balanced. It is clear I am here to help build this encyclopedia and often it is impossible to go alone. The last DRV only highlights the growing problem on Wikipedia. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 17:17, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Facepalm Here, let's read through Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Involuntary celibacy (2nd nomination) again. Can you explain why you did not notify any of the roughly one dozen regular non-IP editors who opined to either delete or merge/redirect? Tarc (talk) 17:24, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

There's no need they are already here and I love how bitey you get. Topic ban this topic ban that, not very conductive behavior, but I guess it's your right. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 17:29, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

I'm sorry, but this is boiling down to a competency issue. You clearly were selectively biased in who was contacted wrt this RfC, but are unable to recognize this fact. I'll leave this tangent in the hands of any admins who wish to do anything about it. Tarc (talk) 18:00, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

As for being sure of approval, when I was contacted I recommended first expanding the article, as Corporate M is in fact doing. Most people who contact me and have some experience here recognize that I do not tend to give unqualified approval, or necessarily the response that was expected. DGG ( talk ) 20:59, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

I didn't include you in the list of canvass targets, as IMO this person contacted you in more of an advice-seeking role rather than a solicitation to come vote as the others were. Tarc (talk) 21:38, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

While it is OK to notify user who were involved in previous debates - but this running around and re-creating things in all possible ways and looking for new ways to go around old decisions -it is definitely WP:Forumshopping. Hafspajen (talk) 07:08, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

It is almost certainly canvassing if you are only notifying editors that have previously voted in your favor. The way to address it would be to also notify those that voted delete to make sure everyone is aware of the discussion. CorporateM (Talk) 16:28, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• I saw this from seeing Valoem's canvassing flashing up on my watchlist. I would be extremely concerned to see our deletion processes shortcircuited by this RFC in userspace. The correct place to test the waters is DRV where the discussion will be seen by a wider spread of users then those who have this location watchlisted. This smacks very much of asking the other parent and trying the backdoor because you don't like the first answer you got. I'm sorry but this discussion can have no validity and this discussion needs to go to DRV. Thanks. Spartaz ^Humbug! 18:56, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Spartaz, I am assuming if this version if moved to the main space it well be AfDed again. The previous DRV was closed improperly, of course there is no consensus to allow restoration, but there was also no consensus not to allow restoration. The arguments for this version of the article are vastly stronger than the calls for delete. Anyone with an understand of WP:GNG can see the sources listed pass notability guidelines. In the end this requires AfD not DRV. The close should have always been no consensus, not delete. Also this is an RfC and I am requested comments from established editors with a solid history of neutrality. Per WP:IAR I really don't have a choice in this matter, I can't see how we can be fair and balanced when deletionists naturally canvass each other and I am expected to fight alone. If I ask for any help I get smack with canvassing does that seem reasonable to you. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 19:27, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

• You mean you didn't get the answer you wanted so you simply refuse to accept the outcome? What deletionists are you referring to? I have never seen the term deletionist used pejoratively unless the person using it has absolutely not interest in hearing views that do not agree with theirs. Not happy with the DRV? You can ask AN to review it or raise another one later with better sources. At some point you have to accept that the argument went against you and until you actually try to tackle the concerns that led to deletion you are back to throwing insults instead of having a colleagiate debate. Sorry but I'm not engaging with that. Spartaz ^Humbug! 19:56, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

I am unaware that deletionist is a pejorative term and have been nothing but civil throughout this discussion. Discussions are based on strengths of arguments not voting. I provided reliable sources, if you think they are unreliable then the discussion must provide a reason. You stand correct in the fact I do not accept the previous outcome. My questions were not answered and the issues and reasons regarding the delete were unsatisfactory. I've provided more than enough sources to establish notability. We document what is notable and verifiable on this encyclopedia, not what is accepted. Spartaz did you review the previous DRV? We cannot have a notable subjects deleted this set a terrible precedence moving forward. Spartaz I kindly ask you to review the subject matter, look over the sources and assuming your neutral please make a decision regarding that article's place on this encyclopedia. If you find sources sub-optimal please explain why and compare them to sources provided in the celibacy article that way we are comparing apples to apples. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 20:11, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Oh Please don't be such a drama monger. We can't have notable subjects deleted as this sets a terrible precedent so you say but this has been through AFD and DRV and the consensus of that does not seem to be with you. This really smacks of refusing to accept that the discussion went against you. And... you shouldn't conflate my concerns over the process with taking a position of the article. I'm entirely neutral on that since I frankly don't care whether or not we have this article. What I do care about is that you are trying to short circuit the established systems to try and change the outcome and that I saw you canvassing participation in this discussion on my watchlist. This is what I am objecting to and is what I am calling you out on. Oh, and have I seen DRV? Um yes. I think you will see from the records that I have been a DRV regular since 2006 and that for a period of 18 months until about a year ago I closed most DRVs. On that basis I think I can authoritively say based on my experience that your emotional characerisation of the process is .. well .. misplaced.. to say the least.... Spartaz ^Humbug! 21:07, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Really? Both AfD and DRV were not one sided. If it was we wouldn't be here. There is a clearly lack of consensus in the first close and the DRV should state no consensus not to allow recreation. So don't Oh Please me, my rational is more than founded. This article deserves another chance at the AfD's. Look at the sources, Wikipedia is not a vote and we have WP:IAR for reasons like this. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 21:20, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

You are becoming ridiculous now. You say that there was no consensus to delete but a closing admin found one and DRV declined to overturn it. No consensus to overturn or not, DRV is quick to act in obvious cases of wrong calls and the closing admin has been hauled over the coals at DRV over other closes but still there was no consensus to overturn. That certainly doesn't suggest that the close was fundamentally wrong or misjudged. Possibly a marginal call perhaps but certainly not the Guildford Four or Birmingham Six is it? Dial down the emotion, stop relitigating this AFD/DRV and go find better sources. Spartaz ^Humbug! 21:29, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Please give me an example of a source you deem reliable, and please show me what is wrong with the sources in the article. No one on the deletion side wants to see this article restored so quickly because is calls into question their judgment of WP:GNG guidelines. Spartaz please take a side, review the article and tell me what is wrong. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 21:34, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Go back and read my earlier comment where I explained that I do not have a position on the article and that my beef is with your attempts to bypass the existing consensus building mechanisms. I'm also getting increasing irritated by your irrational argument and hyperbolic statements but I'm predominantly interested in seeing process followed correctly here. Spartaz ^Humbug! 21:38, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Comment on the title "Involuntary celibacy" is not an oxymoron,because celibacy can also be voluntary, which is arguable the usual state of affairs, and is thus discussed in our article on celibacy. My doubt about it is only that I am not sure it covers all aspects, but since I have nothing better to suggest, and it is used in the literature, it does seem to be a satisfactory descriptor by our usual rules. DGG ( talk ) 20:54, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

I'm sorry, but no, that is a complete contradiction. Celibacy is a choice; you can't call not choosing something to be an "involuntary choice", it's an oxymoron. "Involuntary celibacy" is not science, it is not a medical or psychological condition; it is a neologism. Wanting to have sex, being told "no", and how to deal with it used to be a fun movie trope, from Fast Times at Ridgemont High to Revenge of the Nerds. It's not science. Tarc (talk) 21:38, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Isn't this a recognition that it's notable at least as a trope? DGG ( talk ) 07:08, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

Not any more than TOTUS was. I think some form of "sexual frustration" may be article-worthy; there's science and reliable discussion around that. But applying this "incel" movement's term to that is what the problem is here. Tarc (talk) 12:47, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

This assertion that "celibacy is a choice" keeps being repeated, and a commonsense look at the actual dictionary definitions shows that it's not true. An unmarried person is celibate, according to the primary definition in every dictionary I've looked into. That person might not be chaste, and it might not be voluntary (see anyone for whom getting married is illegal, anyone who is recently widowed, anyone who is getting divorced against his will...), but according to the primary dictionary definitions, and historically the only meaning of the term, a person who is unmarried is, without exception, "celibate". I have not yet seen a single dictionary definition that says celibacy is usually a choice, much less that a person who is involuntarily unmarried isn't celibate. WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:32, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment For those following Jimmy Wales has endorsed the topic the discussion can be found here. This is not apart of WP:MEDRS, it is part of popular culture and sources suggest so. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 21:01, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

He is sitting on the fence Valoem - stop trying to twist facts. Cas Liber (talk · contribs) 04:04, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment - the canvassing really is getting out of hand, and the way you are using Jimmy Wales' polite reply to your badgering as an endorsement of the article, I personally find a bit distasteful. You are doing everything in your power, it seems, to attract people to support your point of view when a majority before did not. It is not people's imput you care about; it is for people to side with you and agree with you, so that you can bypass earlier decisions not to include the material. 195.240.150.14 (talk) 21:07, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

I asked editors of the highest caliber, why did they agree? Because I am canvassing? This topic has a place on this encyclopedia plain and simple. Discuss the topic at hand not the editors involved. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 21:13, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

They agreed because most of them agreed with you before, so you knew they would again. There are other "editors of the highest caliber" who disagree with the recreation of the article and the endless campaign for it's restoring, but you did not ask these editors. You only asked those you knew would be on your side, and asked specifically for others to help you and side with you. Those are not the actions of a man who is interested in hearing a wide set of opinions, who is welcoming to opposing views. Even the Jimmy Wales thing wasn't about how much you respect the man's judgement... it was a way for you to wave it in people's faces: "Jimmy Wales thinks it should be kept! Jimmy Wales endorses me!". Clearly you are on a personal vendetta here against "deletionists" who are "biased". But you yourself aren't biased at all, right? 195.240.150.14 (talk) 21:19, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

What makes the editors you canvassed a higher caliber then the ones who voted to delete this - apart from the fact that you think they are more minded to restore this? Spartaz ^Humbug! 21:17, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

They have a solid history of dealing with each subject objectively. When you review an AfD history of any editor you want to see that discussion can change their opinion, after all it is a debate not a kangaroo court. You want a balanced number of Keep to Deletes, when an editor is only one sided its show an inherent bias DGG and Wales are some editors to my knowledge have been neutral throughout. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 21:24, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

How are you defining a solid history if dealing with each subject objectively? What criteria and evidence did you base that conclusion on and why did you not consider anyone who voted deleted to meet your objective criteria on? I do presume that you undertook the same level of due diligence on the deleting voters as you did on the keep ones to find your higher caliber cohort? Spartaz ^Humbug! 21:32, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

I explained quite clearly above didn't I? Valoem ^{talk contrib} 21:40, 16 March 2015 (UTC)

Clearly not or I wouldn't have responded. Please answer my question and explain why none of the delete voters were considered higher caliber editors, And re your note on my talk page, its not a personal attack to challenge a user when they are not making a logical or rational argument. Spartaz ^Humbug! 00:01, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

Given this statement on Coffee's page where you acknowledge that you deliberately choose keep voters who you thought you would support you, would you like to correct you claims about higher calibre editors above? Thanks. Spartaz ^Humbug! 15:49, 17 March 2015 (UTC)

Spartaz, I do not think any of the editors he asked would give support unreasonably. The AfDs and the Del Rev were contested and were not overwhelming decisions. Are you possibly stressing this issue because this time it might be your position that is not supported, or at least it will have to be re-defended from scratch? Consensus in the RW about what is or is not Fringe changes. changes. New people join and have different opinions. Earlier people leave. People find better sources. Some people might be more persistent--I had more or less given up on this one, but not because I thought I was wrong. One of the characteristics of WP is that no decision is stable. This is very frustrating when one thinks one has finally gotten the right position accepted, but if people challenge it, it needs repeated defending. Some things I was sure I'd finally won on, I subsequently see I may be in danger of losing. It can be frustrating, but that's one of the inherent characteristics of our way of decision making; stable decisions could only be enforced by authority. DGG ( talk ) 05:25, 18 March 2015 (UTC)

DGG if you select editors with a known predisposition to keep material it doesn't matter how carefully they consider the material. Its still canvassing. Spartaz ^Humbug! 22:27, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment This discussion on possible forum shopping is taking the deliberations off topic for the future of the page. It is good to know as the possible motive for some people commenting, but continuing it here would be distracting --Rent A Troop (talk) 03:07, 17 March 2015 (UTC)
• Comment I tend to feel we should not have this as an article because it is obviously causing a great deal of distress to some people and I dare say the topic is not particularly important. I personally can't understand why we have such a problem but I think it must be something to do with the term "incel" which has no connotation for me and so it is a feature I can't satisfactorily take into account. I note from WP:NOTCENSORED that it is permissible to remove content on the grounds of it "being objectionable" although that is not generally done. Perhaps this is an exceptional case. Thincat (talk) 09:39, 18 March 2015 (UTC)

Read it again. It applies to "such things as an irrelevant link to a shock site, or clear vandalism ... content that is judged to violate Wikipedia's biographies of living persons policy, or that violates other Wikipedia policies (especially neutral point of view) or the laws of the United States. " It does not apply to sexual topics that make people uncomfortable. That is never the grounds for removal of such material, except if deliberately intended to shock or offend or insult, and of no possible encyclopedic interest. There is no conceivable sexual or sexualized practice I can imagine that we would not have an article about on grounds of offensiveness, if it is notable. That it makes people uncomfortable is, if anything, an indication of importance. DGG ( talk ) 00:11, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

I agree it's a subject of importance - it's just wrong, which is why medical sourcing guidelines should apply as the subject matter concerns people's health and wellbeing. Cas Liber (talk · contribs) 01:03, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• No restoration. 'Involuntary celibacy' is just a rather arch way of saying sexual frustration. Rothorpe (talk) 16:16, 20 March 2015 (UTC)

*Comment: Strongly urge procedural close of this AFD. This is a bizarre situation which has been mucked up in the process of short stroking. The User:Valoem put this forth as an RFC, not an AFD (although regrettably included afd in title of RFC). The RFC, which is traditionally a 30-day process, has been converted (by an admin who closed two of the AfDs linked above) bizarrely to an AFD, which is a 7-day process. My reading of the RFC was that the editor was asking if he could (using IAR) bypass the most recent DRV, and use the RFC process to get article restoration in the page's most current form in order to commence a new AFD. Migrating the process to deletion discussion directly has conflated the original discussion with a direct deletion discussion. Arguments above conflate restoration with keep and no restoration with delete; these assertions, while partially connected, are not identical. I'd like to see the RFC run its intended course, then see a AFD unconnected to any other procedure. Previously involved admins (and I'm looking straight at you User:Coffee) should not take any further administrative actions to either process. BusterD (talk) 15:33, 21 March 2015 (UTC)

• • BusterD: I'd say you aren't looking very straight at all, as it seems you have a very skewed perception of WP:INVOLVED. Me acting in the role of an administrator in a topic area in the past, does not mean that I am disallowed to further administrate that area. Let me quote the policy for you since you seem to be so misguided: "One important caveat is that an administrator who has interacted with an editor or topic area purely in an administrative role, or whose prior involvements are minor or obvious edits which do not speak to bias, is not involved and is not prevented from acting in an administrative capacity in relation to that editor or topic area." Good day, — Coffee // have a cup // beans // 18:54, 21 March 2015 (UTC)
    • Under normal circumstances we'd be in agreement. However, 1) User:Coffee closed the second AFD in a way with which I'd take issue and myself label No Consensus. Then 2) that same admin closed the Donnelly AfD in what the closer called a "non-standard, procedural close" adding comments like "too much of our good editors' time has already been wasted in this hopeless pursuit" which seems to indicate a preference in outcome of this current procedure. And then 3) this spectacularly poor choice, given the previous connection. I'd say the above puts Coffee's actions here at least within the range of reproach and I believe abstaining from any further admin action on this subject would be the wiser course. In my opinion, the only creditable way out of this bog is for an uninvolved admin to procedurally close this AFD leaving the RFC in place. In the unlikely event this RFC request for restoration is granted, a clean AFD procedure might weigh the issue itself more fairly, without the clear prejudice of someone who has given the lengthy but unenlightening discussions on Talk:Celibacy more weight than a formal procedure deserves. BusterD (talk) 21:47, 21 March 2015 (UTC)

this is not an AfD. it is a review of a DR. -- TRPoD aka The Red Pen of Doom 22:38, 21 March 2015 (UTC)

This procedure is listed as an AFD, set to expire in less than 24 hours. BusterD (talk) 22:45, 21 March 2015 (UTC)

1. That decision was endorsed at DRV. So, your personal "issue" with it holds no bearing here, or anywhere else for that matter. 2. That close was never disputed, and still stands as an administrative action. Your inability to understand my closing rationale, has no bearing on that, and shows only that you can't have possibly followed how long this community debated this matter. Furthermore, your attempt to state that it was a supervote, or that I close AFDs according to my personal opinion, is an accusation that I do not take lightly. So, I'd suggest you open a DRV if you actually want to back that up with more than hot air. 3.1. That "poor choice" was made per an agreement between Valoem (the opener of this RFC and requester of that very action) and myself at my talk page. Please try and educate yourself a bit better. 3.2 Read my above comment, then read it again, as it seems you are really failing at comprehending WP:INVOLVED. — Coffee // have a cup // beans // 04:37, 22 March 2015 (UTC)

Relisted to generate a more thorough discussion so a clearer consensus may be reached.
Please add new comments below this notice. Thanks, — Coffee // have a cup // beans // 20:26, 22 March 2015 (UTC)

@BusterD: asked me to comment regarding process. I agree with @DGG:'s prior comment in that NOTBUREAU applies. Technically speaking it would have been ideal if the OP went through the correct bureaucratic channels. What that means exactly, I don't know, or even care to know. If a consensus is established one way or another, I don't think it matters on which page it is established nor is it sensible to start the discussion over somewhere else. If an admin can MOVE this page to the proper location, without disrupting the discussion, that could work. CorporateM (Talk) 23:15, 22 March 2015 (UTC)

Second break

Anyone who has viewed my edit history knows that my primary objective here is to make sure subjects and topics which pass GNG find their way on to the main space. This is not a subject that I personally suffer from, but one which warrants my interest. Any accusations of fringe pushing is unwarranted. I implore all editors involved in this discussion to look at what we cover here based on WP:GNG:

If a topic has received significant coverage in reliable sources that are independent of the subject, it is presumed to be suitable for a stand-alone article or list.

• "Significant coverage" addresses the topic directly and in detail, so that no original research is needed to extract the content. Significant coverage is more than a trivial mention but it need not be the main topic of the source material.

Yes, [8] dedcates a section to the subject, [9], and this [10]. Each of which gives extensive coverage and is only 3 of the 20 sources which discuss this subject. The last source is from 1985, which showing this subject has been studied prior to Denise Donnelly.

• "Reliable" means sources need editorial integrity to allow verifiable evaluation of notability, per the reliable source guideline. Sources may encompass published works in all forms and media, and in any language. Availability of secondary sources covering the subject is a good test for notability.

Yes, these sources appear to have been subjected peer review and/or editorial oversight. I implore anyone to discuss why any of these source may not be reliable.

Because many are actually just placing together of the words "involuntary" + "celibacy" - hence treating at some sort of entity is (a) a neologism and (b) original research

• "Sources" including but not limited to newspapers, books and e-books, magazines, television and radio documentaries, reports by government agencies, and academic journals. In the absence of multiple sources, it must be possible to verify that the source reflects a neutral point of view, is credible and provides sufficient detail for a comprehensive article should be secondary sources, as those provide the most objective evidence of notability. There is no fixed number of sources required since sources vary in quality and depth of coverage, but multiple sources are generally expected.Lack of multiple sources suggests that the topic may be more suitable for inclusion in an article on a broader topic. It is common for multiple newspapers or journals to publish the same story, sometimes with minor alterations or different headlines, but one story does not constitute multiple works. Several journals simultaneously publishing different articles does not always constitute multiple works, especially when the authors are relying on the same sources, and merely restating the same information. Similarly, a series of publications by the same author or in the same periodical is normally counted as one source. Sources do not have to be available online or written in English. Multiple publications from the same author or organization are usually regarded as a single source for the purposes of establishing notability.

The tone in this article is sufficiently neutral and I am seeing a wide range of coverage in newspapers, books, documentaries, and academic journals.

• "Independent of the subject" excludes works produced by the article's subject or someone affiliated with it. For example, advertising, press releases, autobiographies, and the subject's website are not considered independent. Works produced by the subject, or those with a strong connection to them, are unlikely to be strong evidence of notability. See also: Wikipedia:Conflict of interest for handling of such situations.

It appears right now we are suggesting Denise Donnelly as a primary source. Only two of the sources provided in the article are from Denise Donnelly. Secondary sources have been abundantly cited.

• "Presumed" means that significant coverage in reliable sources creates an assumption, not a guarantee, that a subject should be included. A more in-depth discussion might conclude that the topic actually should not have a stand-alone article—perhaps because it violates what Wikipedia is not, particularly the rule that Wikipedia is not an indiscriminate collection of information. Moreover, not all coverage in reliable sources constitutes evidence of notability for the purposes of article creation; for example, directories and databases, advertisements, announcements columns, and minor news stories are all examples of coverage that may not actually support notability when examined, despite their existence as reliable sources.

Two objections regarding this topic involve WP:MEDRS and the term involuntary celibacy being an oxymoron that could become a neologism. As stated prior, it is incorrect to apply MEDRS as this is not a medical condition, but a social condition similar to Celibacy syndrome in Japan. The second issue involves the term, I am willing to compromise on this and move the topic to Involuntary sexual abstinence. This would reduce oxymoron issue. It also appears this term has also received considerable coverage in scholarly sources: [11].

In fact this source here from the The American Journal of Urology and Sexology, Volume 12 distinctly differentiates between voluntary and involuntary abstinence. It is incorrect to merge this topic into sexual inactivity or sexual frustration, sources provided all suggest these are different topics. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 16:54, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

Note: It does still appear that involuntary celibacy is the common name. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 16:59, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

It is a neologism used in fringe social circles to describe an otherwise ordinary topic of sexuality. You can post 6k worth of rebuttals today and another 6k tomorrow, but none of it will alter that truth. Tarc (talk) 17:27, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

And what is the truth? Are you suggesting that no matter how many sources are provided this will not be notable? I recommend you reread the pillars of Wikipedia and WP:GNG. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 17:34, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

The truth that had been told to you by a number of editors who have suggested expansion of the sexual frustration article, which is what this topic actually is, rather than dredge up this neologism which a consensus of editors at DRV already decided was not article-worthy. Despite your best efforts to tilt this unofficial RfC to your favor, by canvassing like-minded editors who you felt would vote in your favor, there appears to be no consensus to restore "involuntary celibacy" itself to article-space. Time to accept that and move on. Tarc (talk) 18:22, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

No the consensus is no consensus to delete and is the very reason why no consensus allows the article to be retained. Most of the sources do not mention sexual frustration. Involuntary celibacy may lead to sexual frustration, but is not the same as sexual frustration. Please find a reliable sources that say "Involuntary celibacy is the same as sexual frustration" and I will gladly close this RfC. I implore you to find sources to support your claims, I have sources to support mine. Arguments on Wikipedia are not a vote, but based on arguments using established policy. No argument against recreation is supported by policy. If naming is the only issue, I will compromise. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 18:31, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

It's not the same, it's some neologism for some form of sexual frustration. It would fit well as one paragraph among others in the article, it would not fit in celibacy, as it's not a form of celibacy, which is by definition voluntary. "Celibacy" and "abstinence" are as well two distinct topics, celibacy is a part of abstinence, the voluntary part, usually with some kind of (religious) vow or such. Incel would like to be a new buzzword to hide the "frustration" bit, as frustration doesn't fit in the manly picture the frustrated "incels" wish to have of themselves, it's not only a neologism, I'd call it new-speak as well. ♫ Sänger - Talk - superputsch must go 18:43, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

@Sänger: Sources? This is again suggesting that anything named after an oxymoron is a non-notable neologism. Please direct me to a guideline that oxymoron's can never be notable. Sources distinctly mention this term and this term alone, thus not a neologism. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 19:09, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

That's...not even remotely true, Valoem. The article does not exist at present, and the reason it does not exist is because a consensus of editors have deemed it so. If there is not a clear consensus to restore, then the status quo will be maintained. This is how the project works. Tarc (talk) 18:47, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

• Keep. User:Valoem has presented sufficient significant coverage in multiple and diverse reliable sources independent of the subject to warrant inclusion. The Journal of Sex Research is a peer-reviewed scientific journal which clearly meets WP:IRS and arguably WP:MEDRS, so is Sexuality and Culture. A History of Celibacy, a best-selling and well-reviewed book on the overall subject, also written by an academic, contains a section directly detailing. Then we have the WebMD source, written by a respected medical journalist and reviewed by another physician. These four sources all meet IRS and all directly detail the subject, at least as a social situation. I see no argument above refuting this assertion. This source and this one seem to help indicate the common name for this subject. I'd like to point out that in no previous procedure has the outcome for this subject been deletion yet the subject has no coverage on Wikipedia. BusterD (talk) 20:24, 23 March 2015 (UTC)
• This whole discussion is an abuse of process and a runaround the existing pocess because Valoem doesn't like the answer he already got from DRV. As such it can have no validity in establishing any consensus - especially as Valoem has shamelessly canvassed for like-minded individuals to vote in his favour and any admin who attempts to use this ridiculous page to restore the article would be showing dangerously poor judgement. As the location is locked only an admin can close this. Please can someone bring this farce to an end now. If Valoem wants to establish any consensus he needs to go to DRV - once he has allowed some dust to settle and given everyone a breather from this. Spartaz ^Humbug! 20:45, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

Again we have IAR for these reasons. The answer from the last DRV should be no consensus to delete please do review the discussion. RfC is a perfectly sound place to discuss this. If it is a DRV you want then move the discussion to DRV, I have no issues. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 21:08, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

um no 5 previous discussions that did not reach a single conclusion to maintain this material does not a good case for IAR make - plus IAR to condone canvassing is most certainly not any standard under which anyone can reasonably say the encyclopedia is improved. Spartaz ^Humbug! 23:27, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

The Deletion Review closed as "There is no consensus to allow the recreation of the article"; what you think the close should have been is not relevant. Regarding WP:IAR, you'd have to demonstrate how the project would be improved by allowing this exception. Tarc (talk) 21:29, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

You are explaining the outcome of the latest DRV in your favor again, Valoem. The outcome was indeed "no consensus", in the most literal sense of the word: there was no consensus on whether or not to restore it or keep it deleted, the community was simply too torn on the issue. You can call that a tie if you wish, but you can't call it a victory and it in no way strengthens your case for restoring the article. There was no consensus then, and there is no consensus now. It's an endless vicious circle that's not going anywhere. Mythic Writerlord (talk) 21:31, 23 March 2015 (UTC)

• Comment. If DRV is not AFD round two, then it shouldn't be used to change a merge outcome to a delete outcome. Normally such a DRV would either approve the actions of a closer, or disapprove the close. If it validates the close, it validates a merge of content, not a deletion. Since no discussion of this subject has ever closed as delete, and a merge was disallowed through talkpage discussion (by many of the same editors urging no restoration in this discussion), the only option is recreation and another AFD. The versions put forward make it clear this newer version is significantly better sourced than the one discussed in the second DRV. For better or worse, thanks to User:Coffee, we're now in a new AFD, so editors might want to make better deletion arguments than "I'm tired of doing this over again." At least three of the editors asserting keep/restore are long established and have never discussed this subject, so we're not rehashing. Valoem has put forward a set of sources meeting all the criteria of IRS. Some are merely incidental mentions, but most support the core sources which directly detail and come from RS. I'd urge all participants to put aside history and discuss the subject of this AFD, as the article exists in userspace. BusterD (talk) 02:57, 24 March 2015 (UTC)

• That's not what happened. The old AfD found a consensus to merge, it was done so, ten down the road other editors at Talk:Celibacy decided that the material was not relevant to the article, so it was deleted. "Involuntary celibacy" this pointed to an article that did not mention it at all, thus was deleted. "Involuntary celibacy" is a bastard child; disowned by its parent, unwanted by the distant relatives, and orphaned on the streets. Tarc (talk) 03:11, 24 March 2015 (UTC)

• Then let's find it a home. I think my narrative holds up pretty well to the events as they occurred. It's a defacto delete. No formal process concluded it. But we're in a fresh AFD and none of that matters anymore. The page has been recreated with new and more thorough sourcing. In my analysis of sources, I didn't mention the incel community or its sources. I'm more interested, like the sourcing, in the prison population, or incarcerated mental heath patients, or eunuchs, or people who are socially inept (like gamers;-). None of these groups can voluntarily end their enforced celibacy, and all of these groups are sexual human beings too. Tarc, as one of the "five horsemen", you have earned my strong respect and deep appreciation. I hate to differ with you. But here we are. "Incel", I can do without. Incel, I could see merging into sexual frustration. "Involuntary celibacy" meets GNG as a social situation, based on presented sources. BusterD (talk) 03:37, 24 March 2015 (UTC)

• I appreciate the sentiments, thanks, and no hard feelings; it's ok to disagree. It was a de facto delete, sure, but IMO that's kinda where we fall on this since there was never a consensus expressed at all to have a straight-out "incel" article; the excising of the content from celibacy doesn't mean they get their article back. I'm not opposed to an expansion of this frustration article as long as it doesn't become "involuntary celibacy" in all but name. Tarc (talk) 03:46, 24 March 2015 (UTC)

• As wikipedians, we usually tend to agree. That's grand. So we have some common ground upon which to build. What's the best outcome? I agree that Donnelly and Burgess aren't sufficiently notable for inclusion. But I think their research, backed by A History of Celibacy and the WebMD page, taken together meet the standard for significant coverage in multiple reliable sources independent of the subject. If Celibacy needs not apply WP:MEDRS criteria, neither should Involuntary celibacy. I can see Rich's point that a page move is possibly necessary, but that's for later, part of what Warden calls "ordinary editing". BTW, where the heck is ARS now? Could use those votestackers (that was a jest, folks) right now. Anyway, I've got an early call, so I'm off to bed. Thanks for forgiving our differences. As I mentioned to CorporateM (a mentee of mine, I'm proud to say), I'm loyal to the process. Even when we disagree, over time wikipedians tend to get it right(er). Good night. BusterD (talk) 04:11, 24 March 2015 (UTC)
• Involuntary sexual abstinence probably would do. Covers the part, is not an oxymoron and if written carefully it might work. I am fine with it if others agree too. Hafspajen (talk) 13:56, 24 March 2015 (UTC)

• I can't speak for others, but I'd be okay with such pagespace. It might satisfy Rich, who strongly desired a pagemove if kept. I very much appreciate your willingness to consider such an outcome, User:Hafspajen. It's somewhat more than I anticipated from editors who seemed to feel strongly in earlier processes. Thanks. BusterD (talk) 23:21, 24 March 2015 (UTC)

• But I was from the very beginnig for a compromise. Hafspajen (talk) 23:42, 24 March 2015 (UTC)
• As long as "incel" itself is nowhere to be found in said article, it may be doable. Tarc (talk) 03:03, 25 March 2015 (UTC)

• As I mentioned above, I don't see any reason why this couldn't be covered by a sentence or section in Celibacy. It's clear that the authors in question are not notable enough for an entire article based on their fairly fringe views; and I'm not convinced that they're all talking about the same thing, so I don't think they particularly provide any evidence that we should have an article lumping their views together under an arbitrary neologism. But we could perhaps devote a sentence or two to them on the Celibacy article or on Sexual frustration. I agree that the main thing is that we can't use the term 'involuntary celibacy'; the purpose of an encyclopedia is not to promote neologisms. --Aquillion (talk) 07:30, 26 March 2015 (UTC)

Relisted to generate a more thorough discussion so a clearer consensus may be reached.
Please add new comments below this notice. Thanks, — Coffee // have a cup // beans // 19:43, 31 March 2015 (UTC)

Third break

• Aquillion it has been discussed that celibacy is not an appropriate redirect. Per discussion incel is different from sexual frustration. Policy based rationale shows this article has enough sources to pass WP:GNG, there is no reason for a merge. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 23:56, 7 April 2015 (UTC)

  There is no consensus for "incel" to redirect anywhere or to be be brought back to article space on its own. Seeing how there's been over a week's worth of silence, this is essentially a dead issue. Tarc (talk) 00:48, 8 April 2015 (UTC)

Wikipedia has no time frame, you know this, I've been busy and have been focusing on restaurant related articles. The term incel is the most stated term since was are uncomfortable with the term being an oxymoron we are going with Involuntary sexual abstinence, the term incel warrants some mention in the article and a redirect. Valoem ^{talk contrib} 01:29, 8 April 2015 (UTC)

What you have been spending your own time on isn't relevant. The point here is there has been no consensus achieved to overturn the deletion/merger. That isn't a debatable point. Tarc (talk) 12:31, 8 April 2015 (UTC)

• Comment. If User:Valoem persists in including "incel" I can see why some editors above have lost patience. This is an AFD procedure. Generally speaking in such procedures, a "no consensus" outcome defaults to keep for now. Since it seems that previous talk page consensus won't allow a merge to the most appropriate target, and there's no clear consensus for deletion and many strong policy and source based reasons to keep, I'd argue that the page should be allowed to be restored for now, and consensus remeasured at some future date, say 3 to 6 months. After the procedure is closed and the page restored to mainspace, a requested move might be the best course. I concur that "incel" is not yet notable enough for inclusion, and might never be; on the other hand the common human state of wanting sexual contact and being unable to make such contact (per WP:COMMONNAME involuntary celibacy or whatever name the community deems appropriate) seems to meet GNG, based on presented sources. It's for a closer to decide. BusterD (talk) 01:40, 8 April 2015 (UTC)
  • You're mistaken; Valoem is appealing a standing AFD, so this is a DRV discussion, not an AFD discussion. That means the existing consensus to merge or delete stands unless he can show consensus to overturn it. The page was, after all, already merged properly under AFD (and that page was later deleted appropriately under AFD); the appropriate place to appeal either is DRV, not here, and regardless of where he takes, the default is that both those AFDs stand and the page remains deleted. Strong consensus is needed to overcome an AFD result and restore an article, which is plainly not present here. This entire RFC is a bit of a policy runaround; I think the appropriate response is to close this discussion and advise Valoem to go to DRV again if he has any concerns about the deletion. He even admits that he was aware of it and that he is trying to "ignore all rules" to get the article restored, which means that he knows that was the appropriate thing to do under policy; he filed an RFC instead because he thought -- incorrectly -- that an RFC would give him a lower standard to get the AFD result overturned. But that is not the case; the AFD that removed the involuntary celibacy article is the current "default", and absent any sense of consensus to overturn that result and restore it (which is plainly not forthcoming), it will remain deleted. --Aquillion (talk) 08:08, 8 April 2015 (UTC)
    • If there was a second third AFD with a delete outcome, why is it not listed above? The Donnelly AFD is not a discussion of this subject matter. Am I missing something? BusterD (talk) 14:55, 8 April 2015 (UTC)
      • The 'merge' AFD was valid and remains binding, and the Denise Donnelly AFD was also taken as an AFD on the subject, as its closure says. If you object to those conclusions, the appropriate forum is to take it to DRV (where it was taken before; it seems reasonable to conclude that Valoem realized it would fail there again, so he sought to push it through another channel.) Regardless, it is clear there is no consensus to restore here, nor that any is likely to arise; and I feel that numerous detailed, well-articulated arguments for why this is a neologism that cannot support an article have been put forward. It is unquestionable that it cannot be restored without consensus; a non-consensus outcome defaults to the current situation standing, not a radical overturning of a previously-established result. I am confident enough in both Coffee's grasp of policy and appropriate approach to controversies like these to be reasonably certain that they will not do so. --Aquillion (talk) 23:52, 10 April 2015 (UTC)
      • When deciding on a proper forum for this discussion, administrator User:Coffee had several options available, and that user chose to list this at AFD. So it's not a DRV, otherwise Coffee would have chosen to list it there. While that admin has honorably kept the discussion open the same time period as a normal RFC, AFD rules apply here. Many editors apparently assessing the desired outcome as delete have treated this AFD like a DRV and primarily used previous discussion as evidence (irrelevant to this process). Editors asserting keep largely seem to have treated this process as an AFD, have presented applicable sourcing from multiple independent reliable sources and argued not against overturning, but as keep on the merits (an argument not valid in a DRV procedure). This IS AFD round three. To my reading there's been little clash on the merits. There have been lots of expressions of frustration, but little in the way of delete assertion. I'd say there's a strong consensus to keep, based on strength of argument, and virtually no consensus to delete, based on arguments presented. Despite assertions of canvassing, I was not canvassed to this process and had no previous involvement with the subject. Most of the keep asserters above fit that profile. IMHO, IAR was a proper rationale for this forum choice, though I wrongly objected and cast unfortunate aspersions at Coffee initially. For those comments I have personally apologized. BusterD (talk) 15:43, 8 April 2015 (UTC)

  I don't think this thing is classifiable under any normal wiki-nomenclature. "Incel", whatever it is, is an orphan topic that no one wants to mention in existing articles and is undeserving of its standalone home. I view this as a sort-of straw poll to get a measure of where editors are at, and so far nothing has really changed from the last go-around. Valoem keeps repeating "it is reliably sourced so gimme an article" as if it were a tautology, but obviously several editors reject that assertion. Tarc (talk) 16:01, 8 April 2015 (UTC)

• On the contrary, if we disregard the people pulled in through canvassing, I see a strong consensus to leave deleted, and a great deal of discussion on the merits. It is clear that this article is a neologism sourced solely to one or two fringe commentators, neither of whom provide enough sourcing to support even a mention in another article, let alone an article devoted entirely to their theories. Most of the people arguing 'keep' seem to have no real argument beyond a strong emotional belief in those fringe theories. Outside of Donnely and Gilmartin, the supposed sources they've dropped do not actually talk about the same thing, which means that the arguments premised on that track (which is most of the 'keep' arguments on this page!) can be disregarded. --Aquillion (talk) 00:07, 11 April 2015 (UTC)

• No consensus to overthrow decisions There's no consensus to merge this to celibacy, as it's not related to celibacy, a volunteer condition. There's also no consensus to create an own article for this neologism for some special condition of sexual frustration. There is a consensus to expand the article about sexual frustration with a paragraph about this special one, and you may feel free to do so. But...there is also no consensus to create a redirect to promote the neologism of some fringe theorists "incel", so that should not happen as well. ♫ Sänger - Talk - superputsch must go 15:17, 8 April 2015 (UTC)
• No restoration: Holy Jebus, what's with the filibustering? If you can't say what you think in a paragraph, then learn how. Last I heard, closing admins didn't judge by weight. Me, I'm just unconvinced, and no, Valoem can save the trouble of writing Yet Another 1000-word essay rebutting these few sentences. Not going to work. Nha Trang ^Allons! 16:41, 8 April 2015 (UTC)

The discussion above is closed. Please do not modify it. Subsequent comments should be made on the appropriate discussion page. No further edits should be made to this discussion.

Merge proposal

There seems no doubt that "involuntary celibacy" is a thing. However it is not clearly defined in the sense that we have, for example:

Christian celibacy is voluntary for monks and nuns, but involuntary for all desiring to be priests in the Catholic church. (Introduction to Religious Studies, Harvey J. Sindima, Page 103)

and

..individuals may be limited to a choice between commodified sex and involuntary celibacy... (Rethinking Commodification: Cases and Readings in Law and Culture edited by Martha M. Ertman, Joan C. Williams)

It is fairly clear that while the older, technical, meaning of celibacy may have related to an unmarried state (indeed the 1933 OED admits no other definition), Wiktionary is quite to correct to ascribe a second meaning "2. (by extension) Abstaining from sexual relations."

And moreover, neither of those meanings are inherently either voluntary or religious.

Therefore the material at User talk:Valoem/Involuntary celibacy that is not undue, belongs to the article Celibacy, at least in the first instance.

Any additional material (that would constitute WP:UNDUE in Celibacy) relating to the condition known as love-shy belongs in that article, since that is the WP:COMMONNAME of the condition.

Involuntary celibacy should redirect to Celibacy as should voluntary celibacy.

All the best: Rich Farmbrough, 18:22, 19 March 2015 (UTC).

Note: This was also the outcome of the second AfD on Involunatry celibacy. I can see that there are people here opposing the inclusion "non-religious" or "non-voluntary" celibacy. They should not go against the consensus established at AfD, without first establishing a new consensus. All the best: Rich Farmbrough, 18:37, 19 March 2015 (UTC).

• Oppose in the most vigorous possible ways - With all respect you seems to omitted reading the rest of the talk page. 80% of it is about Why not merge. WE are NOT going to start that again. Hafspajen (talk) 19:06, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

Per:Wikipedia:Talk page guidelines Read the archives: -> If you are a new editor to an article, be sure to read the archives. Not only are content disputes valuable examples of talk page behavior, but they contain a lot of expert knowledge surrounding the topic. You may quickly find your questions and/or objections have already been answered if you try searching all the archives for that article at once using the prefix parameter. Hafspajen (talk) 19:10, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

I am not referring to "incel" per User:Tokyogirl79/Sandbox_2 or "Love-shy", but the more general topic, as outlined in User:Valoem/Involuntary celibacy. I specifically made a reservation for "undue", though I am not opposed to a suitable mention of a fringe group or position if properly sourced.

There is no good reason for this article to concentrate on religious celibacy. Moreover the insistence of the word "voluntary" is, as above, against the sources, and presumably seen as a way to keep "incel" out of the article. This it cannot do, since the word "voluntary" is, in a defining sense, illegitimate.

All the best: Rich Farmbrough 19:52, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

However do you realize that all the information you added were not out of a dictionary, but certain and very few authors very own definition of celibacy - that is rather far from the DEFINITION of the celibacy? You did not added a definition of celibacy but a couple of authors that they themselves do admit that their way of treating the subject is personal and deviant from the mainstream definition?

You cited Abbott, Elizabeth. But he view is very differes from the mainstream deffinition, as she stated that herself: (page 16-17) :

I also drafted a definition that discarded the rigidly pedantic and unhelpful distinctions between celibacy, chastity and virginity, all of witch I used as key words in my research. Despite dry dictionary definitions they are, in the context of this book, synonyms. Risking tedium... I cite Webster's dictionary: ... celibacy is the state of being unmarried, especially that under a wow .

She admits from the beginning that she uses this word in her book differently. And this is only one view; her view. If this author and some few others wishes to use those terms contrary what is the usual, generally accepted definition, well, it is her book, her choice. But what she calls in her book non religious celibacy is actually not celibacy but chastity. She has a doctorate in 19th-century history from McGill University, not sexology or religion history. The New Age stuff you added ... with New Age authors talking about New Celibacy ans New Sex and New Love ... Well, all this, if it should be added it should be done differently. Hafspajen (talk) 20:15, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

I did not add any information, certainly not from Elizabeth Abbott. If we had consensus to limit this article to "the state of being unmarried", we could do so. However that would not introduce "voluntary" or "religious" as constraints.

All the best: Rich Farmbrough 21:15, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

Actually, it's not just "one view, her view" that chastity, celibacy, and virginity are all used, by different people and in different contexts, to describe the same idea. The modern definitions, i.e., in actual dictionaries, do generally include the concept of chastity as an alternative definition. I believe that you quoted several such alternate definitions on another page not that many hours ago. "Abstinence from sexual relations" and "deliberate abstinence from sexual activity" seem to be in those definitions, and those are both within Abbott's concept, although they are absent from the pedantic older definitions (the same main definitions that you're rejecting when you present it as solely a voluntary religious practice). It would make perfect sense for a person who specializes in 19th century history to be aware of how much such a definition has changed in the last few decades.

By the way, did you notice that Abbott has an entire chapter about celibacy not always being voluntary, particularly in the non-modern, non-Western world? We shouldn't lose that kind of history in this article. WhatamIdoing (talk) 04:09, 20 March 2015 (UTC)

Voluntary

I know that this is a contentious topic, because of the effort to get "incel" into Wikipedia. (I don't really care one way or the other about that; the notability is borderline at best, so it could go either way.)

But, really, guys, the very first source in this article directly says "celibacy is often enforced" sometimes. "Enforced" means exactly the opposite of "voluntary". So, sure, if your notion is celibacy is limited purely to religious celibacy chosen by mature adults, I'm willing to say that it's voluntary. But celibacy isn't limited to that. The very source that allegedly says every dictionary declares that it must be voluntary (it says nothing about any dictionaries) says that the most common meaning is just plain "unmarried" ("The term is mostly used in the sense of being unmarried". (It's a book entirely about religion, so the fact that it goes into details about the religion-specific use shouldn't be surprising.)

Given these sources, it is simply not true that absolutely every single one of the actually-celibate people on the planet has made a voluntary choice to remain unmarried or not be sexually active. It could be that something else is forcing them to be celibate (exactly like that first source says). If you really think that anyone who isn't married and/or having sex is doing that "by choice", then you should spend a month improving our article on Sexuality and disability. Or Prison sexuality, to give another example of non-voluntary celibacy that's mentioned in the first source. WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:57, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Well, that on depends on how you define celibacy. Not having sex is not always voluntarily. But here you chose to call the people living in prison or having a disability to call it live in celibacy ... What you cite is a the Encyclopedia of Gender and Society, Volume 1. Can't check source, but it is a sentence cited from the book, used ... as some books in the field of sociology tend nowadays to use it. But it is not a definition of the celibacy. I don't know where that sentence was coming from, but I think it could have been one of the arguments to add incel. Try instead to check the definition in all major lexicons and dictionaries. Hafspajen (talk) 03:05, 19 March 2015 (UTC)
  • Excuse me if this seems pedantic for a moment, but you have falsely accused me. I am not defining celibacy at all. I am quoting to you exactly what the WP:Reliable source says about it. We have to follow the sources, even if we disagree with them. WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:38, 20 March 2015 (UTC)
• Here we have the Encyclopedia Britannica:

  Celibacy, the state of being unmarried and, therefore, sexually abstinent, usually in association with the role of a religious official or devotee. In its narrow sense, the term is applied only to those for whom the unmarried state is the result of a sacred vow, act of renunciation, or religious conviction. Celibacy has existed in one form or another throughout history and in virtually all the major religions of the world.

  Hafspajen (talk) 03:14, 19 March 2015 (UTC)
• Either way, it is the deliberate abstinence from sexual activity, usually in connection with a religious role or practice., according to Britannica Concise Encyclopedia - page 359 it is the state of being unmarried - used in the sense of complete abstinence from marriage; generally for religious resons... Hafspajen (talk) 03:25, 19 March 2015 (UTC)
• The Oxford Dictionary is formulating it as: The state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations. To abstain is defined as: Restrain oneself from doing or enjoying something.
• Children's ... - Britannica is even more outspoken: A voluntary refusal to marry or engage in sexual intercourse, celibacy is often associated with taking religious vows. The three types of religious celibacy are sacerdotal, monastic, and institutional. That is a definition. Hafspajen (talk) 03:18, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fifth Edition. Copyright © 2011 by defines it as:

1. Abstinence from sexual relations.

2. The condition of remaining unmarried, especially for religious reasons.

The Random House Kernerman Webster's College Dictionary, © 2010 K Dictionaries Ltd. Copyright 2005, 1997, 1991 by Random House, Inc. defines it as

1. abstention from sexual relations. 2. abstention by vow from marriage. 3. the state of being unmarried. Hafspajen (talk) 03:43, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

Removed until there is consensus for such changes, which seems like little more than incel dogma. Tarc (talk) 03:15, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

These are the changes; all that I will state on the matter is that WhatamIdoing was following the sources, like she always does. For example, isn't stating "All dictionaries" WP:Synthesis in this case? That's Hafspajen's wording. Simply stating "Dictionaries" in place of "All dictionaries" would suffice. Flyer22 (talk) 04:13, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

Thanks for that, Rich Farmbrough. Flyer22 (talk) 18:48, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

• Really? Is Brown, Gabrielle. The New Celibacy: A Journey to Love, Intimacy, and Good Health in a New Age - the new definition of celibacy? A New Age style definition is better than the Encyclopedia Britannica? READ at least the source. It say that it is using the word differently from the original meaning. Hafspajen (talk) 19:22, 19 March 2015 (UTC)
• She is also talking about The New Sex, not only about The New Celibacy. Shall we start rewriting our article on Sex too, according to HER definition or WHAT? Hafspajen (talk) 19:52, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

The only source you mentioned that uses the word voluntary is "Kids Britannica". All the best: Rich Farmbrough 21:07, 19 March 2015‎ (UTC)

This is WP:Synthesis because the "All dictionaries define celibacy as necessarily voluntary." sentence is not supported by the source. And even if it did state that, it's not true, as is clear by looking at different dictionary definitions of celibacy. Also, linking dictionary was unnecessary WP:Overlinking; people usually know what a dictionary is. Flyer22 (talk) 21:06, 19 March 2015 (UTC)

I completely agree. That sentence violates every concept behind verifiability. It is not in the cited source. It's not even sort of, kind of, maybe in the source if you squint a bit. It's not there at all.

Hafspajen, let me make this very easy for you. If you want to write that "dictionaries say this" or "all dictionaries say that", then you must cite, at the absolute, rock-bottom minimum, a source that actually contains the word dictionaries somewhere in it. The encyclopedia that you've cited there does not contain the word dictionaries (in the plural) anywhere in the entire volume (and none of the four instances of dictionary in the singular have anything to do with its three-paragraph-long entry on celibacy). WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:38, 20 March 2015 (UTC)

Comment: Editor Rich Farmbrough took it upon himself to redirect voluntary celibacy to celibacy as a way to single-handedly bypass consensus while the issue is still being discussed. I nominated it for speedy deletion until some form of consensus is reached, because it's a first step to redirecting "involuntary celibacy" in a similar way. Mythic Writerlord (talk) 07:34, 20 March 2015 (UTC)

I think that your assumption that it has anything to do with redirecting anything else is wrong. Even if it were part of a larger stand, then redirecting "voluntary" here could just as easily be a prelude to sending "involuntary" somewhere else. WhatamIdoing (talk) 16:20, 20 March 2015 (UTC)

Hafspajen, this edit summary is inappropriate, and that text is still a WP:Synthesis violation. WhatamIdoing, Rich Farmbrough and I are going by what the WP:Reliable sources state on that matter; the only POV-pushing we are doing in that regard is going by what the sources state/noting here on this talk page what they don't state. I always follow what the WP:Reliable sources state, with WP:Due weight, as you should very well know by now, since I have corrected you various times at this article on that matter. I hardly care about this involuntary celibacy hoopla, and certainly have not commented a lot on the matter. Do I not see a problem with involuntary celibacy being covered in the Celibacy article? You are damn right I do not. That does not mean that I am pushing any POV on this topic. You, on the other hand? Let's just state that I am tired of reading both sides of this dispute. Flyer22 (talk) 19:56, 20 March 2015 (UTC)

Hmm. Isn't Merriam–Webster considered a "major" dictionary these days? "the state of not being married" is the primary definition. Also, did you notice that you cited four encyclopedias and only two dictionaries?

I think it's time to take this to NORN. I'll post the link in a moment. WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:12, 21 March 2015 (UTC)

Wikipedia:No_original_research/Noticeboard#All_dictionaries_say. Please share your views there. WhatamIdoing (talk) 01:36, 21 March 2015 (UTC)

Incels article created to get around WP:Consensus against creating involuntary celibacy/incel topic

Yes, it has been created again, in yet another form. This is why I stated at Talk:Incels, "Coming from this matter after following MurderByDeadcopy's edit history minutes ago, I see that the article 'Incels' has been created to get around the WP:Consensus formed on this topic at Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Involuntary celibacy (2nd nomination) and at Wikipedia:Deletion review/Log/2014 December 7#Involuntary celibacy. Because of this, I am WP:Pinging Sandstein, who closed the deletion review, and I will be alerting Talk:Celibacy to the existence of this article."

My only problem with the Incels article existing is that it was created to get around WP:Consensus. And let's not forget Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Involuntary celibacy (3rd nomination), which was a few months ago. In that discussion, I supported the existence of that article (though I was more so for a merge). But, alas, WP:Consensus was against that support. Flyer22 (talk) 21:17, 8 October 2015 (UTC)

Also WP:Pinging Juliancolton, who closed the third deletion nomination. Flyer22 (talk) 21:18, 8 October 2015 (UTC)

I support deleting incels or at the very least merging it, but I'd prefer the first. MurderByDeadcopy^"bang!" 21:26, 8 October 2015 (UTC)

My God... they never stop, do they? Mythic Writerlord (talk) 21:59, 8 October 2015 (UTC)

It looks like someone has sent it to AFD. WhatamIdoing (talk) 22:19, 9 October 2015 (UTC)

Rahul Krishnan sessions

I've twice removed variations of the mention that "Rahul Krishnan organised workshops on Celibacy and Social Pressure in University of Pennsylvania from 2009-10". The material is being added by Ankit1121 (talk · contribs). The statement is unsourced, identifying a random person offering the workshops, with no indication that the workshops were any more notable than the hundred or even thousands of other such workshops offered at schools and youth programs elsewhere. I don't see any encyclopedic value offered by the statement. As the material has once more been restored, I'm bringing it to the talkpage for further discussion. --- Barek (talk • contribs) - 06:39, 15 January 2016 (UTC)